[dee2185]

My Boyfriend needs time?
My boyfriend and I have been dating now for 2 and a half years and have been through things most couples have never expereinced.He had a minor problem with drugs and through some of the worst times in his life I stuck by him.For about 3 months last summer he voluntarily decided to go to a rehab facility in California ( we are from new york) and I flew out to see him every two weeks.I have supported him through it all and loved him and believed in him when others gave up.We are eachothers best friends and have done everything and anything together.We get along great and really and truly care about each other. When we met we clicked right away and I fell in love with the way he loved me so much.He has treated me like a princess and I couldn't ask for better.After coming home from rehab things were very hard he had to start from nothing,his car was taken away and after having his own apartment he had to live back home.He is having a tough time trying to find his way in life right now such as a job and making something of himself.Sobriety is the hardest part and he's doing such a good job but I know he is struggling inside so much.He is about to turn 24 and feels so depressed because he feels like nothing is just going his way.About 4 days ago we got into a small argument about what is going on in his life and he snapped.We went from one extreme to another in 5 minutes he said he needed a little time to clear his head right now and wanted some space.Of course I start crying because to me I don't understand how he could push me away right now when I feel like he needs someone the most.But I guess everyone deals differently and maybe for the first time in a long time he feels like he needs to get his act together and only rely on himself.He keeps reassuring me that he loves me, that were not broken up and its just some time to clear his head and that it absolutely has nothing nothing to do with me he just going through a lot right now.He told me that he knows I will be the girl that he marrys and that he knows I am it for him he just needs to get his act together right now so he can be the boyfriend he knows I deserve.He said that we will work it all out in time he just needs some time.That it has nothing to do with other girls, I'm the only one he wants to be with but when he gets depressed he just needs time to sort things out.I know in my heart I should trust him when he says that because if he wanted to end our relationship he cares about me as a person way too much to mislead me .I think he may be having a tough time delaing with sobriety also which is why as much as this is kiiling me maybe some space will be good because he will finally stand on his own two feet and after so long be the boyfriend he knows I want.I truly love him and I know he is it for me which is why I'm taking this so bad.We also have a vacation planned for the beginiing of July and he said he still wants to go.I don't think if someone is trying to end a relationship they would still keep a vacation booked with that person.I guess I'm just scaird and I have always been his rock and I'm kind of lost without him.I think calling him or texting him will only make it worse and that if he if telling me it will all be okay I should trust him and just respect his privacy right now.Its just so hard to go from being with someone every single day to no contact at all.I just hope he is okay and it kills me not to be there for him.We have never had a break or space or time apart before which is why I don't know how to deal with this right now and how it works.

[h_leann_b]

You two have been through A LOT as a couple. I think that you need to give him his space. He is going through a really difficult time with going through rehab. You going out to see him so much when he is in rehab; he knows you care about him and love him. He needs to figure out the things in his life, and I think you should let him. Let him know that you are there for him and then he can find himself. I'm very happy he is sober. That can take a lot of courage!