[cathy2747]

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is in the Army and has been in Korea for 10 months. He returns in 2 months. But,my boyfriend broke up with me just 2 months after he got there. Called me the very next day he broke up talked to me like nothing happen. Then, every time he calls me says he wants to get back together when he gets home. But in the mean time told me about had he had spent the night with a girl.That's a nice way to say it. But If we are to get back together when he gets home he wanted to be honest. The closer it gets to him coming home , he still calls me but won't say the words he loves me or misses me.We will see how things go when I get home, he says. I need help .I love him very much but it is ripping my heart apart because before all he talked about was getting married . Now he can't even say he loves me ,but still wants me here for him.I need someone to help me because I need to say something to him or do something.To let this guy see I can't just be this girl always waiting for him. His next duty station is Texas,and I live in Florida I can't be with him just as a girlfriend in another state anymore.Should I wait for him ,or put the brakes on him now before he comes home? Please help me someone,I'm not getting any sleep and making myself sick.

[Fr_Chuck]

And after Texas if you get married and it is Iraq, then Afgan, how long being married are you waiting

[Triysle]

Speaking as a soldier who has seen too many friends get dumped while overseas, it's interesting to see the other side of the situation for me.

This is a bit different than what I usually see. Typically, a soldier is stationed somewhere far away, and his or her significant other sends a dear john letter. In this case, he broke up with you, and wants you to wait around on him while he's sleeping with random women over there?

As much as I want to side with him, he can't expect you to wait around like that. I'm sure if you moved on, he'd call you a , and you'd be accused of putting stress on him in a combat zone and all that other nasty stuff. But honestly, he left you, not the other way around.

I think you would be better off moving on without him. I know it sucks, and I know he's probably a great guy. What you should have done was worked out exactly what you wanted before he left, but I think he made that clear by his actions over there. And don't let him get away with "I just needed a warm body" or whatever other excuse he has.

I respect the man for serving his country, but you need to respect yourself and realize that you deserve someone who will stay true to you regardless of the situation.

~ Tee

[I wish]

He's obviously really confused about what he wants. That's pretty obvious and until he settles down in 1 city (instead of going on different postings) he's going to continue to be confused.

The question you should ask yourself is... can you accept this about him? Can you keep torturing yourself this way? Can you really put your life on hold for so long, withouth a definitely timeline?

If you ask me, none of it sounds fair to you. Let him go and find someone who isn't going to be a long distance boyfriend or completely confused about what he wants.

[liz28]

He doesn't want to be with you when he is away because he wants to be free to roam.

But when he is home he wants you. Can you imagine what married life would be like?

My dad was in the army for years until he retire and he never did this to my mom.

To save yourself a lot of pain leave this guy alone and stop taking his calls. You shouldn't let him be with you whenever it is convenient for him. He doesn't run things.

[talaniman]

Let him go now, and then your both free, to live without each other.