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SD713 · May 14, 2009, 03:44 PM

Background:

I dated this guy for nearly three years, and recently we broke it off. I am nineteen, and we had lived together for two years and were supposed to get married next year. We broke apart, because I had cheated on him with a coworker, thinking I wanted something else, and was fine the first few weeks of the breakup, trying to swallow everything and "just move forward."
Which I had been trying to do.. I got a new apartment, and I have been picking up more hours at work. Ive tried dating the coworker, but I really don't feel like I have feelings towards the person, and it truly was just lust... too cliché.
The relationship had been going downhill for a while I suppose. I never felt attractive around him, being that he once told me that he didn't, in fact find me attractive, and quickly retracted his statement. Id gotten fed up with the controlled way of life I had gotten used to with him. And even though I occasionally smoke, (very occasionally) I had gotten so annoyed at the fact that he felt he had to be stoned every minute of the day.
But now Im just absolutely miserable without him but he pretty much hates me.

I suppose I should get to my question...

Should I try to see if he wants to work on things? Should I try to just suck it up and move on? Exactly how DO you move on?

Anyway, my what Im asking is,

SD713 · May 14, 2009, 03:47 PM

Should I try to see if he wants to work on things? Should I try to just suck it up and move on? Exactly how DO you move on? *****

I wish · May 14, 2009, 03:53 PM

This might sound harsh, but you're not ready to have ANY boyfriend. You sound like you can't live life without a guy in your life.

This co-worker turned out to be your rebound from your ex boyfriend. You need to stay single and make yourself a stronger person.

SD713 · May 14, 2009, 04:04 PM

Ive been going out with friends, going to movies, getting enrolled in school. I do, in fact have a life outside of guys.
I decided to date the coworker because, well honestly, wed had sex and we were friends, and he wanted to give it a shot.
I understand about staying single, even with the coworker out of the picture though, I still have to deal with the ex, which is extremely hard to do when my family hangs out with HIM more than me. My brother is taking him camping this weekend... How am I supposed to just have him around all the time and not know what I am supposed to do about the two of us?

I wish · May 14, 2009, 04:13 PM

The thing that would help you the most for moving on is to block both of them out of your life. Don't answer their messages or phone calls. Block them out of your email, IM, social networks. It's harsh, but it's got to be done to help you recover.

You really need to focus on yourself before finding another boy/man in your life.