[monkeychita18]

My partner is currently pregnant and her ex-boyfriend wants to take away the baby. She doesn't want to ask for any child support but she know and is aware that he has to be apart of the babies life. We have both tried talking to him, to let him know that he is going to be a part of the baby, but he doesn't listen he starts yelling saying he is taking this to an attorney to take the baby away. He is threatening her saying he has her social security number and that at any time he will be going to say he wants to pay child support just to be a part of the babies life. What I want to do is get custody of this baby. She is afraid of losing the baby, she doesn't mind for him to be apart of the baby but doesn't want to ask him for any child support nor is she comfortable for him to take the baby alone. The baby is not yet born, but what would you suggest we do?

[SINGLE4]

Welcome Monkeychita!

First of all... you have no rights to this child. The only way you would have rights is if the "biological father" would relinguish his rights and then you could adopt the child. Doesn't sound like this is going to happen though!

Also... unless you girlfriend is a druggy or a "sex horror" (sorry for the language) then I don't think she has a lot to worry about! A lot of courts believe that unless the mother is one of the things I mentioned above that she will care for this child! As far as child support... in Nebraska... a person can't just not pay child support! The minimum here is $50.00.

[K_3]

Why is he an X/bf? Does he really want the child or just want to cause trouble? Why does she not want child support but will allow him to be a part of the child's life? Give a little more backdground information. Thanks

[Fr_Chuck]

First the bio father unless he has seroius drug or abuse problems will get to be part of the child's life if he wants to. There is no way to stop him, period

Next there is nothing a new boyfriend or girlfriend can do, you have no rights at all to the baby, except to help raise it.

And paying or not paying child support does not make a diffrence to visitation or custody. Normally both are part of an agreement

And I will add a little preachy here but a person needs to consider who they are having unprotected sex with if they don't think that person is good father material or someone they want to help raise a baby.

This man will be part of that child's life, that fact had better just sink in.

As to full custody, most courts don't give the father full custody unless the mother has very poor morals, is a drug user, or in some way a danger to the baby. But he could get joint custody sharing the amount of time each has the baby, or have other forms of visitation ( every weekend, every other weekend or so on)

So what you do at this point is hire an attorney and start making plans to file in court for custody once the baby is born. Remember the bio father has just as much legal right as the mother does until the court makes a ruling.

[talaniman]

Relax and see what happens after the child is born. You have no rights unless he signs his rights over so just support the g/f. Unless there is something you haven't told us no court will take the child from the mother so relax there too. She does need to get child support and visitation set in stone for the record though as its in the best interest of the child.

[s_cianci]

It'll be pretty hard for her to get the baby taken away from her. Why is she not asking for child support? The judge will probably order him to pay it whether she asks or not. Certainly he'll be granted visitation but custody is highly unlikely.

[The WB]

He is probably just mad and blowing off steam. There is really nothing he can do. He can take her to court to establish paternity. But, he is setting himself up for failure if he is not planning on paying child support. All you can really do is support her and the child. You have no say until he gives up his paternal rights.