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paul reeve · May 5, 2009, 10:44 PM

Imeet awoman I'm 45 she doesn't seem to mind our age difference she's 34.I meet her through a woman who was 51.I don't think she will be impressed, but she has know idea of my feelings for her friend.Don't get me wrong there are not tight friends,but do I tell her my intentions.The 34 yr old is more open and is not looking at this point for a full blow relationship which is the same as me.It's more like a friend with benefits.We have discussed this and she is very open.She has 2 girls 4 and 6 yrs old.My kids range from 18 to 24.Her kids really like me ,but I don't want them to think of me as a farther figure.I really like this girl and from our conversations she comfortable with this arrangement.WHAT to do.WE have not had sex but that's what's she and I both want.I don't want to loose either 1 as friends.HELP.PAUL

I wish · May 6, 2009, 10:29 AM

Sounds like she's got a log of baggage, seeing that she has two kids.

Be patient, if neither of you are looking for a full blown relationship, then just keep talking and getting to know her.

liz28 · May 6, 2009, 10:51 AM

What a second which one do you like the 34 or 51 year old?

If you start something up with the 34 year old why would the 51 year old get mad? Does she like you to?

paul reeve · May 6, 2009, 08:05 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

What a second which one do you like the 34 or 51 year old?

If you start something up with the 34 year old why would the 51 year old get mad? Does she like you to?

Yes The older one wants a relationship.I don't think I am ready for this.There's more to the story.I was shot by the o.p.p in 2007.I'm now dealing with ptsd.And just so you know all charges against me were dropped after 15 months in the superjail in Penetang.But I don't want focu on that .I'm still alive after 2 shots to the chest and for that i.m happy.

talaniman · May 7, 2009, 01:30 PM

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You do have quit a story, and I strongly advise you to be honest with them both, and follow the path you think best.

Not fair to have one hanging on, while you do the wild thing with another. That's deceptive, and selfish.

mudweiser · May 7, 2009, 01:44 PM

Well what I see is that you and the 30 something year old just want a sexual relationship-- which would work out since your both consensual adults.

If you don't want to play "dad" to her kids, then simply don't meet or spend time with them.

If you really want this to happen, set some rules and make sure you both are on the same page about your intentions.

Sarah

paul reeve · May 7, 2009, 08:36 PM

Yes we are on the same page,but I've heard this beforand right out of know where It's where are we going with relationship.I just finished a 14yr marriage.But hey t you never know unless you try ,I THINK?

mudweiser · May 8, 2009, 05:41 AM

Originally Posted by paul reeve

Yes we are on the same page,but i've heard this beforand right out of know where It's where are we going with relationship.I just finished a 14yr marrage.But hey t you never know unless you try ,I THINK?

Well I can see why you don't want another "serious" relationship.

Tell her that. Be straight forward. Your 45 years old you should be able to approach situations like an adult-- playing by ear is for people that are still learning about life.

Good luck to you!

Sarah