[ytrewq19]

This girl and I get along real well at work. Been friends for several months. Always flirting back and forth and such. Anyway, we went out one night.. had a great time and kissed. Went out two more times and had just an equal amazing time. Nothing too physical, just kissing. She admitted to liking me, and she knew I felt the same way.

A few days ago, I asked her how she thought about us, if she felt it had potential. I was honest, I told her I liked her, but didn't want to continue unless she felt the same way. She said she wanted to continue how things are going and see what would happen.

Well, another co-worker whom she talks with a lot told me that she has feelings for someone else, cause she talks about how she misses him. So I feel like she's just keeping me as an option.. which of course I don't like. I'm completely afraid to continue to pursue as I think I'm just digging myself a hole of hurt. So I've cut back talking to her a lot. Any talk is strictly work related. Its been like this for like 3 days now and I was expecting some sort of reaction, but she seems content with how it is.

Any ideas? I'm thinking about just stop hanging out with her, and sticking with work talk, and let her decide for herself. At the same time I think if I ignore her I'm letting her slip away.

[ytrewq19]

As I finished typing this, I started to answer my own questions.

-She hangs with me, but misses someone else.

-Doesn't seem to care that we stopped talking. I'm pretty confident she knows I know about the other guy.

-Aka: Work is goung to be very akward for awhile. :(

[jjwoodhull]

Why are you letting someone else get involved in your relationship? Ask this girl straight out if the rumors that you heard are true. Tell her you like her but are concerned about dating someone who is interested in someone else. Give her the opportunity to answer you honestly.

It does not sound like she has given you a reason to not trust her. What you heard is gossip.

[Fr_Chuck]

And when she starts going out with the other guy and talking about it at work, how much harder will it be

That is why dating people at work is always a bad idea.

[ytrewq19]

Yup. Your both right. And yes, Co-worker dating is bad. That's pretty much makes me not care about it too much anymore!
=)

[I wish]

If she kissed you, she must have some level of interest in you. People don't just go around and kiss other people. You shouldn't believe the rumors. You should find out from her directly.

But if after 3 days you haven't made much progress, chances are she's not that interested in you.

If you like her and want to make something happen, then keep talking to her. Otherwise, back away... and if she wants something to happen, she will come find you. Like everyone said, dating a co-worker can be very awkward and unnecessary.

[talaniman]

Keep it strictly business at work. For your sake.