[iwannacarpediem]

So I have been with this guy lately, and we have been dating for a few months. Last May I went on a 2 week trip with a group of people from my school and I found out later in the year that one of the guys on the trip was trying to get with me the whole time. Now, I talked to this guy maybe 3 or 4 times total on the trip, and saw no indication of this. My boyfriend found this out shortly after I did, and went completely crazy because I am going on another trip this year, and this guy happens to be going on the trip as well. My boyfriend gets ridiculously upset whenever the trip is even mentioned, and no matter how many times I have reassured him ( I have never been unfaithful at all), and tell him that its not a threat to our relationship, he doesn't care. He says he doesn't even want me talking to the guy whatsoever, which I think is ridiculous since I have no feelings whatsoever for this guy and have repeatedly told my boyfriend this. He has jealousy issues from his relationship before this that I think may be playing a role in this... The other day this guy, who I'm pretty sure still likes me, happened to be in an area we were studying in and while walking back from the restroom he stopped me to say hello so I just casually said hi and talked to him like I would any other acquaintance. My boyfriend broke up with me later that night and kept saying he hoped it was worth it for me. What the hell? Am I just crazy or is he being completely ridiculous about this? I am just a nice person and I just because I talk to someone doesn't mean I want them. My boyfriend knows how I feel about him and I have never done anything to jeopardize the relationship. He is acting like I cheated on him and left him for this guy when I never did anything but talk to him... am I an or is he just overreacting?

[slapshot_oi]

You're right, he's crazy.

You're right again, he's holding over these emotions from a previous relationship.

He needs time alone, he'll only get over his jealousy if he has nothing to be jealous about.

[liz28]

Yes he is crazy and your even crazier for dealing with his temper tanrums.

He has unresolve issues that he needs to work on before being with someone-- and that is taking care of his insecurites that leads to jealousy.

You can help it if someone likes you. As longs as your not entertaining it, what's the big deal.

He shouldn't move on if he isn't over what his ex did to him and then carry that load to the relationship.

Be happy he is out of your life because you need a man not boy.

[mudweiser]

Thank your luck stars this relationship is over.

If you did not do anything with that guy let alone ever cheat on him, he really has no right to be like that with you.

Imagine if this relationship stretched out for 5 years; you'd be dealing with his jealousy issues, end up with little or no friends, change your clothing style [yep, eventually he'd start picking on that too], and sooner than later you'll become a different version of you, and you won't like it.

Go on this trip and enjoy yourself! If by any chance you happen to like this boy or anyone else my suggestion to you is to wait a while, and I mean longer than a month, so you can give yourself some space; plus jumping to another relationship will just "prove" your ex's thoughts about you.

Good luck to you!

MRS.S