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shy la la · Apr 25, 2007, 04:28 AM

Hi
Am in love with a married man. He is too sweet and sweetest in the world. But he doesn't want to get married to me because he wants his family undisturbed. His wife knows that we
Are only friends and doesn't know that we are in love. And he is also in some other other
Place and not in my city. We are mad after each other. I don't know what to do. Now I
Cannot leave him and start looking for somebody because it will be like cheating him. Please
Help me...

Krs · Apr 25, 2007, 04:48 AM

Leave him be, he is married for crying out loud!
You said he told you he wants his family undisturbed so if you care that much please respect his wishes and listen to him and move on...

missk · Apr 25, 2007, 04:53 AM

OMG are you serious? How would you feel if your husband did that to you? And you think seeing someone else is cheating?? Please leave this man alone. No one here is going to tell you to stay with him. Just read your post and think about it for a minute. He is totally using you. He is having his cake and eating it too.

Emland · Apr 25, 2007, 05:29 AM

I equate married men with illicit drugs. They may make you feel good, but will destroy your life in the long run.

Tuscany · Apr 25, 2007, 05:53 AM

You are worried about cheating on HIM? What is he doing to his wife and his children? Isn't he cheating on THEM? What about when he is with his wife? Isn't he cheating on YOU?

This man is taken and until he is divorced he is taken. That means you can't have him, the next door neighbor can't have him. Only his wife and children can have him. That is just the way it is.

Are you prepared to be second best the rest of your life? That is what you will be. He won't leave his wife for you. So, he obviously cares for her more than you. Don't you deserve more?

missk · Apr 25, 2007, 06:37 AM

The poor wife (unless she is cheating) poor kids. I don't understand how people don't know that their spouse is cheating.

NowWhat · Apr 25, 2007, 11:17 AM

How can you be in love when he goes home to his wife every night? He has told you he has no plans of ever leaving his wife. You are a piece on the side. That is it.
He has made no commitment to you at all. And even if he did - his word is obviously worthless.
You are knowingly inflicting pain on another person and that comes with a price. You may not pay it today - but when it comes due - you won't be ready for it. And, then and only then will you truly know what harm you are doing by positioning yourself in another woman's marriage.
Get out now.