[StarGazer88]

I need advice! I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I do love him very much but I am really confused! He's the perfect guy he's smart, family oriented, loves kids, is ambitious and the list just goes on. We met when I was 16 and I'm now about to turn 21 I want to go out and have a good time with my girls which are all single and just have fun. He on the other doesn't really like the party seen and would rather just chill and watch a movie or hang out with the boys and me. I tried taking him out once with my friends and he just stood there and so we left early because I couldn't have any fun worrying about if he's having a good time. When I told him that, he said he just came out for me and that I shouldn't worry about him, but how can I not? He's already had his fun he says and doesn't really want me to go out and when I do there's always an argument the next day because I got home late or something so dumb and makes me feel super guilty. Im just so bored of are routine and want some excitement in my life! I now go out and flirt with guys and I sometimes meet people that I feel I would want to get to know but I cant. I had asked him for a break which he didn't let me have and now I'm confused I know he wants to get married in a couple years and he's always talking about when we get married this and when we get married that.. where would we live? And I'm freaking out! I ask my friends and family for advice and they tell me its up to you, or they tell me don't lose him he's a good guy. I know he's a good guy but I can't help but feel like maybe I need to let him go so that I could really appreciate him. But then if I do let him go will he still be there? That's always on my mind... And since day one of are relationship he's been telling me ill never find anyone better then him. So now I think Would I? I just feel like I'm so young and overwhelmed with everything and he just puts more pressure on me.. he's always saying you can do better then that you have to be better.. I know you can be better, I tell him to just except who I am and he says he dose but the next day there's another lecture..

Any advice would be GREAT!

[spitvenom]

What do you mean he wouldn't give you a break? Tell him you want a break and then leave. When he calls or texts or emails you do not respond. And that little comment about you will never find a guy better then him and him not leeting you have a break in the relationship is his way of controlling you.

[I wish]

I can tell you this, he seems very involved in your relationship and wants to aware of every aspect of your life. If he's going to be so controlling on the things that you do, he's obviously very insecure about your relationship.

The best thing to do is to be up front and honest with him. If he loves you as much as he says he does, then he will understand and respect what you are feeling. This is going to be a huge test for him, so make sure that you are ready for whatever response he may give you. From what you are telling us, you might not get the type of response that you would like.

[Safe At Home Te]

I was married at such a young age. I didn't know who I was really. Maybe you just aren't ready to settle down (?) And that's okay... just be HAPPY!

I also want to mention that when I was your age, it was the opposite problem. The young man wanted to go out all the time with his friends and leave the girlfriend/wife at home.
He would have been a "gem" back then :)

In my humble opinion good guys are hard to find.

The very best of luck to you in your happiness:)