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lilbit420 · Mar 15, 2009, 07:30 PM

OK so, I've known this guy for a few months now. The day we met we hit it off. Only problem was I just ended a 2 year relationship and wasn't looking for anything involving commitment. We stopped talking for a few weeks because he moved further away. We just started talking again about 2 months ago. I've been hanging out with him almost everyday since then. I drive almost an hour to see him everyday. He always asks me to come see him and spend time with him. We spend countless hours on the phone together when I'm not with him. He always calls me right after I get home and we talk all night. It's kind of crazy, but I love the random things we talk about. Now, when I had first met him we had both agreed that nothing too serious would come of our friendship. Recently I talked to his best friend, who told me that this kid in question had strong feelings for me. I'm confused thou, because he acts like he doesn't want to be with me sometime and other times all he does is talk about how great it would be if we were to have a relationship. Now I want to know if he really does like me or if he is just playing with me?

nikosmom · Mar 15, 2009, 07:48 PM

It sounds like he's protecting himself. You told him from the beginning that you didn't want to get into another relationship. It seems that he likes spending time with you but seeing that you already "rejected" him, he's not going to keep pushing the issue.

Have your feelings changed? If so, tell him.

lilbit420 · Mar 15, 2009, 08:05 PM

He knows now that I am more open to starting a relationship, but he says he isn't looking for anyone right now.

nikosmom · Mar 15, 2009, 08:21 PM

Well I'm not sure what your question is exactly- he's not playing you if he told you he's not looking for a relationship at this time.

lilbit420 · Mar 15, 2009, 08:32 PM

See he said he didn't want the relationship when we first met and I had said it. At the time I thought he was serious, but he always made it seem like he said it just because I did.

nikosmom · Mar 15, 2009, 08:42 PM

If you've changed your mind and think you really want a relationship with this guy, sit down and have a serious conversation telling him your feelings. Understand that you will have to put your feelings "out there" just like he did in the beginning and risk rejection. But tell him if you really want to be with him.

lilbit420 · Mar 15, 2009, 08:59 PM

The only issue with telling him straight out is that I fear it might scare him away. He has always been the type to party and what not. He is a very sweet and understanding person thou. Don't get me wrong, but we have a lot of mutual friends that think we should be together, but the ones closest to us, like family, say that it's a bad idea for us to be together because we are almost exactly alike, which could lead to a lot of problems down the road

Romefalls19 · Mar 16, 2009, 05:19 AM

Enjoy this time of getting to know each other. Take it all in and see what time will bring for the two of you. What's the rush?

talaniman · Mar 16, 2009, 05:55 AM

I agree with Rome, keep hanging out having fun and see what happens. You have plenty of time for the serious stuff later. Don't get carried away now, because your just getting to know each other.