[pobrecito]

I am 16 yrs old. Am a male. For many years now evertime I meet a new person the moment I talk they instantly judge me to be gay. I admitt that I am on the heavier side. And with that comes with not a flat chest like the rest of men. I am a really sensetive guy because I grew up wit no guys. I never had a brother or a dad. What should I do to make people to stop juding me as "the gay guy"?

[kctiger]

People will judge you your whole life. Believe me. There are just certain things in life that are what they are, and judging people is one of those things. If you are happy with who you are, then that is all that matters.

[450donn]

Sometimes judgment's come because of the way we dress, our hair styles, carry ourselves, talk or act. Usually they are not be deserved. You might consider looking at your clothes, and mannerisms and adjust what might be necessary so that you outward appearance is more masculine.

[artlady]

I agree with kctiger 100% but also know that accepting yourself as you are is not that easy,especially if you are being bullied.

I had a friend years ago who was very effeminate.He was not gay,however,everyone thought he was.When the teasing by other males got so out of control,he became suicidal.

In an effort to help,myself and a few friends simply pointed out the behavior that was considered to be less than macho.His body language and mannerisms.

Hopefully you have a good friend who can point out traits that may be on the effeminate side and you can try to change them.

Try to mimic the body language of other males.I don't don't mean strutting around but the more subtle male mannerisms.

You can always use humor to put the teaser in their place.If they say you are gay,think of a witty comeback.

Good luck!