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THEDONDUTCH · Mar 7, 2009, 11:19 AM

Hi I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 33.
We have been going out for 4 months now and living together for 3.

When we frist started going out I couldn't keep his hands off me. Two weeks later nothing. We haven't had sex in 2 months.

I'm a very sexy young women and I would think he would be all over me all the time.

When I ask him for it he has so many excuses every time I ask him like:
The relationship is not all about sex ( that was OK when he frist stopped 2 months ago)
He is not in the mood
The ecomomy

The thing I hate most is when he know I want to have sex and stills tries to play me. He even told me a couple of times that he would have sex with me and when its time he goes to sleep.

I go to school during the day. Cosmotlogy school 4 times a week at night. I come home cook, do my homework, and get ready for the next day. He stays home and plays xbox 360 or watch t.v. most times his friends can be over all day and he will be fine but as soon as its time to be alone with me he goes to sleep.

He tells me its not me but I really think that's bull.
I recently found pics of naked girls on his phone. He writes poems for other girls on myspace and chats with a whole lot of girls on aim and criagslist. He tells me that he not cheating but I have this feeling he is. I just don't have proof.

Please help me understand what might be going on. I think other guys point of view will help me a lot.

skydive4life · Mar 7, 2009, 11:24 AM

I think he's up to something to be honest with you.. im a guy and I don't turn down sex when a girl I'm dating asks unless its really not the apporprate time

Rich11111 · Mar 7, 2009, 01:07 PM

33 year old guys do not go after 18 year old girls for a committed relationship, they go after them for one reason and that's sex.
Your boyfriend could be an exception, but it sounds like he got what he wanted and is now just not interested in you anymore. You said he acts differently to you when his friends are around, you could just be a trophy to him, something to show off. When you're a 30+ man, being with a women 18-20ish can be seen as some sort of achievement the same way being in a threesome can be.
This is just my opinion based on what info you have given about how he doesn't want you for sex and flirts with other women, I would say he doesn't really care for you.

talaniman · Mar 7, 2009, 04:46 PM

Hi I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 33.
We have been going out for 4 months now and living together for 3.

Too much, to fast, crash and burn. You may think you know him, but you have a lot more to find out about this stranger. If he is home all day how does he support himself? Does he do drugs, or take meds?

artlady · Mar 7, 2009, 04:51 PM

If he is sitting around all day doing nothing ,he sounds unmotivated and he could possibly be depressed.Depression will lower ones sex drive.

unouwanit666 · Mar 8, 2009, 02:39 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

To much, to fast, crash and burn. You may think you know him, but you have a lot more to find out about this stranger. If he is home all day how does he support himself?? Does he do drugs, or take meds??

I'm sort of in the same position as you...

... well- very sort-of.