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    Mar 1, 2009, 01:54 AM
    Should I be concerned?
    I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. About 1 yr and a half ago he cheated on me with some random girl while he was drunk (which is not an excuse I know) but I chose to forgive him and try to fix our relationship. So far everything has been going pretty smoothly, he hasn't cheated on me since and I have remained loyal and I try really hard to not suffocate him and go crazy by accusing him of cheating or whatever. HOWEVER, he gave me his password for his e-mail a while ago and I go on it to check it out every once in a while. Well, today I went on it and he had received an e-mail from his ex girlfriend. She said "kisses i miss you :(" Normally, I would flip out and call him and yell at him but she has sent him e-mails before saying how in love she is with her GIRLFRIEND and she sent him pics of her and her girlfriend (normal pics not anything nasty) still, this does not sit right with me, supposedly she's gay but I know that young women's sexuality can change pretty easily. I don't want to over react so I'm going to try to get advice from you guys first. Any imput will be appreciated. Thank you.
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    Mar 1, 2009, 01:59 AM

    Has he been acting strangely lately?
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    Mar 1, 2009, 02:04 AM

    No, he's actually been acting better which is why I don't want to start an argument but the whole idea of talking to ex's, gay or not gay, seems wrong to me
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    Mar 1, 2009, 02:19 AM

    My boyfriend and I both are friends with our exes. THere's a lot of history there that can't be ignored when there's an amicable break up. You need to talk to him about this. I wouldn't admit to checking his email though.
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    Mar 1, 2009, 02:42 AM

    Yeah, I understand where you're coming from but I'm just insecure about him talking to his ex especially when his ex is somewhat prettier than me and especially since he has cheated on me before.
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    Mar 1, 2009, 02:52 AM

    There's obviously still a trust issue here. First off, I doubt he thinks that she is prettier than you. And secondly, you won't ever be able to build your trust back unless you let him have his freedom (within reason).
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