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airwalk_man · Feb 22, 2009, 12:40 PM

Hey Folks,

Last week I hear a friend I've known for 24 years broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years and I'm kind of bummed. They appeared like a great couple, but suddenly he broke it off with her. Now he's dating someone else and they're already going at it. His ex girlfriend is still a great friend of mine and with technology like Facebook, she's already commented on my profile. I want to message back, but I don't know what say and I do want to make it meaningful. Now your asking yourself, "It sounds like he likes her". I do like her, but I don't think she is interested in me, so I'm just trying to reconnect as friends after my buddy made a dumb choice in dumping her. Someone else's advice was simply to say "I'm sorry" but I want to sy more. Thanks for reading, and commenting.

Cheers

heartbroke · Feb 22, 2009, 12:44 PM

Your friend will take it as betrayal siding with her. Your interest in her will only make things worse. Be her friend, from a distance

talaniman · Feb 23, 2009, 08:42 AM

While you may want to be a friend, and she may need one, recognize she needs to heal on her own, and don't get to close, and let things get complicated by intense feelings from contact, or friendship. Keeping her at a safe distance will help her, getting to close may hurt you both.

The last thing she needs is to rebound to you.

airwalk_man · Feb 23, 2009, 11:32 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

While you may want to be a friend, and she may need one, recognize she needs to heal on her own, and don't get to close, and let things get complicated by intense feelings from contact, or friendship. Keeping her at a safe distance will help her, getting to close may hurt you both.

The last thing she needs is to rebound to you.

Ok, it makes sense. If karma kicks me in the , and I run into her randomly someday, and one thing leads to another I'm not going to stop it. I guess this brings up the age ol' question, how soon is too soon?

I mean, my buddy is already screwing around with another girl and I'm almost to the point in dropping a random message to his ex to "bump into" him and his new fling, just to speed the healing process up.. haha I'm evil. I guess in 3 years, I made just as good of friend with her as I did with my buddy, whom I've known for 24 some odd years. I guess its just a piss off.

Thanks for the advice.