[sarah16]

Ok so I have a best friend and she has another friend.she is always telling me she hates her other friend and she's fat,ugly,and gross.she always tells me I'm her best friend and she can't stand her other friend.BUT on her myspace it says that I'm her best firend and so is the other girl.at school she always is hanging out with this other girl and the other girl thinks she's her best friend and she always says please do this I'm your best friend and my friend never says your not my best friend sarah is.I alkways ask her why she doesn't tell her she hates her and thatim really her best friend.is she lying when she says she hates her because she hangs out with her she sits with her at lunch and she lets her think she's her boyfriend and she posts comments on myspace saying best friends forever sistera at heart and all that !oh and by the way I hate her friend so much.

[JJCH]

Sounds like she's lying and using the other "so called" friend... and possibly you as well...

[asking]

She has two friends and she's afraid to tell you because she thinks you'll be upset. You need to accept that she can have two friends she likes and not try to force her to choose. She's not being very brave in not telling you, but it sounds like you are all very young.

[TL4ever]

Hmm, I used to feel that was also when I was very young, it's a normal thing to think that, but it's not good if you hog a person all to yourself, let them be free just like how you would want to be,or then have useless arguments over it, and never become friends again (I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want that). Just because your known as the "best friend" doesn't mean your her only friend.