[boston12]

My girlfriend and I just broke up on February 1st, and this was one of the hardest things ever for me. For 2 weeks prior I had noticed she had been acting differently (not really finding much time to see me, sometimes she was excited when she saw me, other times she wasn't etc.). Finally, one day she came to visit me and said she couldn't keep doing his anymore and that to be fair to me she had to end it. She and I had always had a very open and honest relationship, so I began asking some questions..

1) Do you want to see other guys? - No, she didn't want to see any other guys.
2) Did I do something wrong? - No, I was the best boyfriend possible for her.
3) Did I not give you enough space? - She said she liked the space I gave her, giving her a chance to hang out with her friends.

Friends had seen her out at parties dancing with other guys and such, but that was part of the relationship that I accepted. We never had a problem with it. Just the other night, I was talking to her and she told me that she didn't want to date any of the guys she was dancing with, and she admits she still is having a hard time with things.

I asked her again, "so, why really did you break up with me?" and she tells me that she wasn't sure why.. it just felt right at the time. She admitted to pushing me aside for the 2 weeks prior to our breakup, but didn't know why.

At times we would get in small arguments during our relationship. It lasted almost a year, but it was very good most of the time. We still talk but it is still awkward. She has admitted to crying numerous times over the past 2 weeks about things that have happened, and admitted to me she can't even focus in school about things.

She still has my pictures up around her room, still sleeps with stuffed animals I gave her, and more.

It's tough because I don't know what to think. Am I giving myself false hope? Is there a chance for me and her to get back together? Can anyone help?

[artlady]

Without really understanding why the break-up happened,its hard to say what the future holds.

Maybe she just grew tired of the relationship and there is no going back.

People do change and grow apart,especially when you are young. Everything is changing when your young and it's a confusing and difficult time.

Caring about you and sleeping with your animals and keeping your pics does not indicate anything but her inability to totally let go all at once.

She is weaning herself from you.Try not to read more into than there is.

You have to ask her,is this it for good and is there any chance you will feel different in a week?

The bottom line is she did it for a reason and she's not giving you any clues as to why.

Maybe she is interested in someone else and is trying to spare your feelings.

Staying in touch is giving you mixed messages and is unfair to you.You can't be friends at this stage of the game.. impossible when you are still wrapped up in emotion.

Ask for a definitive answer(future or no future) and if she can't give you one... you need to move on and break all contact.

You are too emotionally invested to be friends at this time.

[talaniman]

For the sake of you both, give her, and you some space to let the emotional dust settle, without influencing each other, and stop the questions for which there are no answers for.

For what ever reason, her feelings have changed. She probably doesn't know herself.

Leave her alone so you won't be further confused.