[briii123]

PLEASE read it all it will help pleasepleaseeee

Okay,please please HELP! I have a boyfriend. Im 16 years old, he is 18 years old. We've liked each other for basically all last year and started to hang out so much in the summer. We acted like we were together since July and are now going out. I REALLY think I love him, and he treats me soooo great. The thing is he goes to college in the city at a filming school, but comes up every Thursday and stays till Sunday. We hang out all of those days and absolutely love it.
Im always talking to him during the week but somehow in my head I still think he's doing things behind my back, like I'm not sure if I REALLY think it, or if this relationship seems to good to be true, because I've never had one like this before? He doesn't talk to many girls except the friends I have because he tells me he really doesn't need too, and I know that's true because I've seen his phone and fb , etc.
He looks like he's my age but he's soooo adorable not hot but really cute haha, and so many girls used to like him, which I guess gets me nervous =/he tells me he loves me every night and in the day and I reallllyy think he means it, and he says he honestly wants to be with me for his life, and as of now I know I can't see myself w/o him for a realllly long time. But I know were young and we may not even know love, as what some people say, but I REALLY think its real.
But with me, the thing is when he calls me an hour late, or when he goes somewhere I get so nervous and I don't get it! Its not even like he does it a lot, but its gotten to the point where I get so upset and worried that he's doing something. I have thought about it and think it could be that I'm very insecure, which I am, and feel that I'm not good enough and why would he want me? We always fight over little things but in the end he's always giving in and telling me he loves me. I just need help because all of my friends say he loves me and I'm really lucky, and I dk why I get so upset over the littlest things and the little mistakes he does!! Please give me advice like he's so great to me I just dwell on the bad things. I just don't understanndddd PLEASE HELPPPP! :( PLEASEEE

[mintah50]

Number one STOP being self insecure , trust me that damages relationships I have experience. I feel like your relationship needs more trust and you two need to talk about these things even though you might feel nervous talking about. That what going to change your relationship to improve. And the love is another thing you need to talk about cause then you will never know. Only you two can understand your love for one another. If you have any question please respond back.

[mintah50]

You guys need to talk about all that your saying . You also need trust and you need to stop being self insercue that damages relationship.

[Justwantfair]

Yes you can love someone at your age and it is real to you, will it work... you don't have a crystal ball and neither do we.

What I can tell you is that you both will be changing a lot in the next ten years. Take things slow, don't be in a hurry to rush your relationship, grow and change together and you may find a future with him, but right now you have to live for right now. Focus on school first as that is the most important thing in your life, as it molds your future completely.

As for dealing with your insecurities about this relationship, you need to deal with them with trust. If he didn't want to be with you he wouldn't but he sounds like he puts you first. There are going to be times he can't call exactly when he says he will, don't assume the worst or you will push him out of your life.

Take things one day at a time, we all encounter many heartbreaks in our lifetime, but we all live to make it through them. Don't worry about the heartbreak first.

[Crista]

You tell yourself you think your in love :-) I think you know deep down, " it is too good to be true."

My first guy where I felt the strongest for, I automatically thought it was love. I just met this guy and I was totally head over heels for him! He was the sweetest and good looking too. Now that I think about it, this guy that I fell in "love" with was too romantic, too sweet, too nice and gave too much attention. I couldn't believe how perfect he was. BUT because I wouldn't cave and sleep with him, he just as quickly ditched me.

Be careful who you give your heart too 100% because if he breaks it, it will be a very long time before it mends and it will have scar tissue.

[talaniman]

Your very young and haven't had a chance to learn the coping skills that you need to get you through the hard times. You really should be doing other things besides thinking the worse.