[julieishere]

He eats our food, has lost his job, during this time of losing his job he tried to move in a girl who in the end up and left and stuck me with a high electric bill.his cats piss on my stuff. Since my man and I have been togather we have always had someone elese living here and I'm growing tired of it but due to the economy and I myself has just got laid off I need the income. He however just got hired on to a new job and owes me a lot of rent like I said I need the money that he owes me. But I cannot mentaially deal with the chaos any longer. Also my man has no liscens and is relying on his best firend, our roommate to take him to work because they work on the same side of town wich makes things more easier on me having to take him back and fourth. I would love nothing more than to progress with this relationship but I'm growing tired of having my space interupted. I would love to have my house back so I can have peace and quiet and solely focus on my college career and my relationship. Also at times I feel like my man takes sides with his best friend when it comes to certain situations. Sometimes I feel like I'm being ganged up against. What should I do about this? Should I wright this relationship off and start anew? Or should I just grin and bear it?

[liz28]

You should express these thoughts/feelings with your boyfriend because it seems like the friend is putting a strain on your relationship and he is clearly taking advantage. Does the friend has someone else to go live with because he isn't your responsibility.

Tell your boyfriend and than let him talk to his friend and I don't think your going get your money he owes you now because he clearly don't have it. But if your concerns are falling on deaf ears and he's siding with his friend than you make the right choice and let them go get a place together.

Sometimes when your trying to help someone, especially a friend, it can go wrong and rules and boundaries needs to be set. However, this is his friend and he needs to address the issues but your input counts too and if your boyfriend is unwilling to do so then kick you don't need him either.

No matter what you shouldn't never feel uncomfortable in your home and you need peace. Do what's right for you especially if your boyfriend isn't.

[talaniman]

I think you need to establish some boundaries, and raise the rent on everyone.