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schweb · Jul 29, 2006, 06:40 AM

I had the perfect relationship once & was in love, but it went sour.
Since I have done so many things I'm not proud of. & would scare anyone away from me & I can't bring myself to talk about or confess to.
I have found it so difficult to find happiness & feel its my karma to walk alone in repayment fro my bad deads.
Is there any hope for me? & if so how do I find the strength to do so?
I can give advice to my friends but never to myself.
I lack the confidence in myself & feel I deserve where I am because of my past.

MEHUL M BHATT · Jul 29, 2006, 08:02 AM

DEAR,

I read your problem. First you think about love,

I read that you find happines,so I give you one Question why find happines?

Remark,
My every ward is so short but you think

JoeCanada76 · Jul 29, 2006, 09:45 AM

It is your choice for your past to keep you in prison. Or it is your choice to learn from your past and not make the same mistakes again. Then you will be able to move on. We all make mistakes, we are supposed to learn from our mistakes and move ahead. Not imprison ourselves.

Joe

talaniman · Jul 29, 2006, 02:57 PM

Ask GOD for forgiveness and then forgive yourself!

valinors_sorrow · Jul 29, 2006, 03:40 PM

It is possible to be confident again. Make a list of things you need to make amends for-- big or small. Cross them off as you make the amends, one by one. Once you are done, you are free again. If you are not sure of this procedure, consulting someone like a minister or close trusted friend might be helpful. This is something that was advised for me to do, and I did it and it worked. I hope that helps!

s_cianci · Jul 29, 2006, 07:41 PM

What kinds of "bad things" have you done? Have you learned from your mistakes? Do you now know not to repeat them? If so then I really don't think you have anything to worry about and I don't think you'll scare off any potential love interests as long as you're honest and upfront and reassure them that your past is just that ; the past, not the present or the future. It sounds like you need to work on self-forgiveness. A good place to start, if applicable, is to "mend fences" with those whom you've wronged due to your past indiscretions.

Jayjay027 · Jul 31, 2006, 11:02 AM

Everybody goes through low times at some point.
What you have to realise is that you're not alone, no matter how much it feels like you are.
I have done things that I'm ashamed of since getting out of a long and happy relationship, but since then, I've realised that I just need to learn from my mistakes and move on... taking what you have learned with you.

You'll realise that, when you are ready to get into another relationship with someone else, you'll have the knowledge to make this new one even healthier than your last one.
It doesn't feel like a good thing now, I realise that.
But in time, you will get over it, and you will be happy again.
It's up to you to make it possible and believe that it can happen.

Best of luck
X

Krs · Aug 1, 2006, 01:02 AM

Originally Posted by schweb

I had the perfect relationship once & was in love, but it went sour.
Since I have done so many things I'm not proud of. & would scare anyone away from me & I can't bring myself to talk about or confess to.
I have found it so difficult to find happiness & feel its my karma to walk alone in repayment fro my bad deads.
Is there any hope for me? & if so how do I find the strength to do so?
I can give advice to my friends but never to myself.
I lack the confidence in myself & feel I deserve where I am because of my past.

STOP feeling sorry for yourself.
STOP dwelling on bad things that you have done in the past!

Concenrate on now, the present and the future. You have control over them but not over the past which you can't change!

There is hope for most people in this world, you just have to work at it.

aqua@home · Aug 1, 2006, 09:21 AM

I agree with the fact that you need to allow yourself to be forgiven. None of us are perfect. We all have mistakes in our past. As long as we learn from them and try to grow and not make them again, we are doing okay. It is always easier to give advice because you can be neutral. Give yourself a break!

I believe in Karma, but I also believe we can change it. If you do nothing but give ourselves negative thoughts and feelings, then that is probably what will come about. You have to change your way of thinking.

You can do it! You are worth it!