[kemykat100]

I am a 26 year old female no children and I am in love with two men one lives in England where I am from and the other one is American the English one is OTIS 33 years old has a 4 year old daughter. We have been together in a rocky relationship for 2 and a half years due to baby mama drama. Beginning of last year I was going through upset and depression and went to miami for a girls vacation and met the 21 year old American MIKE who happened to be from New York (where I visit twice year)

I had already felt to give up on my relationship as I wasn't happy and the American was a distraction. After Miami we spoke on the phone for 4 months almost daily! Then we met up again in the summer as I came to New York for one month and then made it official.

When I went back to London I broke it off with my boyfriend and continued contact with the American. Somehow after a month he was back on the scene wanting to work it out and I was weak and let him back although still being in a relationship with MIKE By this time Otis knew about Mike but I kept lying saying I don't talk to him anymore then saying I will break it off with MIKE when I next go to New York Mike was unaware of Everything.

Now I am in America with Mike and could not break up with him as I still love him and I could not find a way out cause he treats me so Good. But the other day Otis called him somehow and told him everything. I denied most things but said I was still in contact with OTIS and spent time with him now and then. His view became sceptical but he said he still wants to be with me but I should not talk to Otis anymore or he will leave me.

So Mike Is giving me another chance and says he has extremely deep feelings for me that he's never felt before and Otis still wants to be with me and says he still loves me. All I want to do is be happy and both think they can do that for me. But I don't know who the best option is to pick?

I'm 26 in the middle of my life sorting out my career I'm planning on a New York graduate internship for a year this year and I'm just trying to stabilize Otis being the older one has not got a job and is still trying to stabilise and Mike is finishing up with university as well as working. So marriage and children is not in the current horizon but I want that in the end but at present I don't know what to do or how to choose and I need some good advice?

[Justwantfair]

I think the best advice, is for you to be single.

Both of these men deserve better than you are offering to them. No one on here is available for the Pro/Con of each person as that is not an appropriate way to evaluate any relationship and if I were either of these two men I would be so offended by this question to begin with.

You need to make your choice and abide by it completely, no matter which of them you are around! But honestly they both deserve someone better for themselves and the best you can do is choose neither of them.

[NItEMArE129]

You played with them both. You manipulated them both and tried to get the best of both words. I'm sorry, but that's the simple truth. And honestly, if you can't come clean now and resolve to never do this again, it would be the right thing to do to break up with them both. Neither of them deserve this, so come clean now.

[talaniman]

If you were single you, could date them both, and anyone else for that matter, but since you choose to be weak, and sneaky, so leave them both alone, and do better for yourself.