[confusedgirl123]

Hey every one who reads this. My name is kayla I am 15 end going out with a 19 year old have been for 5 months now. But I am confused about the relationship and need your help. Well I feel my money is his and his money is his. I shout him everything . Maybe once he has bought me a drink like the other day he said let's go to the movies but I have no money. I feel he is only using me like my birthday is on Tuesday and he asked what I wanted I said I don't know. He will only spend 30 it's not how much it costs it's the thought that counts but then I said to him what would you like for your birthday he said a play station 2 now I felt like saying I am not paying 200 for you and you spend only 30 scab much. I love Brett so much aye but my parents don't get me they think I can do better and can't see me spending forever with him. They think he is dumb . He told me he could get anyone now that hurt end he asked me for my friends number so I walked out the room went back in he was getting it out of my phone I don't know if it's 2 stir me up or what please help guys muchly appreciate it x

[BlackVY]

Wow... this guy doesn't sound so nice... like if he has no money, then he should go get a job, and I don't think its right making your younger girlfriend pay for things. I mean, that's the guy's job. You are not his sugar mommy or something. Weird.

The PS2 thing is wrong too. What makes him think he deserves something that's $200, but all you get is a maximum of $30... so wrong..

The last thing is the worst I'm afraid. He says he can get anyone to you, then goes through your phone to get your friend's number? That's crazy!


Check it, I'm sorry to say, but as much as you love this guy, He ain't good for you. He is not good for anyone, and maybe your parents are right, he is dumb. Mooching off you, putting your down, taking advantage of you and then getting your friend's number? Nah girl, I'm sorry to say, but I think its time you got rid of this guy. Its only going to get worse from here...

[Nestorian]

Kayla, that guy may love you, and you him. The only problem is, he doesn't seem too stable in the old noodle. You know, he sounds too imature, and insensitive. Mind you, I only have what you siad to go by.

If you really want to know what to do? Look inside yourself, we can only suggest what you should or shouldn't do. I can see that you are not an imature person. So please, look at yourself, and say, "I'm beautiful, smart, and so totally worth it." He can go after what he wants, but I will go after what I want too. By that I am not saying in only your love life, but also in school, friends, and so much more. People sometimes forget that there is a big old world out there, and though it may not be limetless, it would take a life time to explore. And let me tell you, there is nothing like traveling to another country, meeting new people. Maybe even new best friends.

If he wants to threaten you like he did,"He told me he could get anyone now that hurt end he asked me for my friends number so I walked out the room went back in he was getting it out of my phone" - you Why be with some one who is probably needing to deal with themselves.

I treat my girls as I'd like them to treat me. My longest relationship was 4 years, and I was very in love, but she left me. She met another guy, and dated him for 3 weeks, while telling me that's not what she was doing. I don't hate her, though I am very angry that I was so hurt. It's bin 2 years and I still love her same as the day we met, but also I still hurt the same when I first realised I was alone. Point is that I met some new girls and feel in love with them just as much, though I was with them for a more brief time.

My main point here, is that I gave my partners my love. I would never do anything to hurt them, because I never would want them to hurt me. The fact that some have hurt me, doesn't change the fact that I love them, but I do know I can not be with them. Because if they won't take care of themselves, then how can I expect them to be happy with me, not because of me. That's right true love is being happy with some one, not because of them.

Take care kido, I hope I helped, if not watch this

YouTube - Flight Of The Conchords - Frodo, Don't Wear The Ring
YouTube - Flight of the Conchords Ep 7 'Albi the Racist Dragon'
YouTube - Flight of the Conchords Ep 6 Bret, You've got it Going On

I hope you like them kido. ;)

[simoneaugie]

Brett is young, so says and does things that aren't smart or mature. He's older than you are, but he's young, trust me. He makes a scene about going through your phone... Drama! Is that what you would like? That is how he is right now. He may not ever change.

Aside from what your parents say about him, what do you think? Does he show a desire to be the best he can be? Ask yourself what you would like out of a relationship. Are you getting most of that from him? Is he willing to learn what you want out of your relationship with him?

A child (or the kid on someone) ask for a $200. Game. The adult in someone realizes that the game is his dream, not yours, or within your financial ability to give. The adult loves what you can, and want to give and does not degrade the relationship by resorting to drama.

[Homegirl 50]

This guy knows he has someone who will give him what he wants with little or nothing in return. The "relationship" is IMO one-sided. He is using you so I'm sure he has no problem with things as they are.
You need to learn to love and respect yourself more than you love him, then you would come to realize that he is no good for you.
Advice, Lose him