[fisha002]

OK right here's my story I am now 18 sorry its so long and maby confusing (oh and spelling)

When I was 12 I was raped I'm my local park and for years the only person I told (1 year later) was my best friend, she promised me she would never tell anyone elase but then one day when I was 16 I came home from school and my mum was sat on her bed crying and she told me my best friends mum found a letter on her (my friend)floor that was telling some of her friends at school (we went to different schools) what had happened to me and her mum asked her what it was about she told her mum everything I had told her thoes many years before and then her mum went and told mine. It crushed me just having to go through the whole thing again telling my mum dissipointing her like that and just having to relive the whole thing again then my mum called the police and got me to make a statement. I hated I felt I was just getting over it all then this happened and well me and my mum don't talk anymore and it is unbearable I can't sleep because I'm keep waking up with night terrors and hot sweats:confused:.

Well my point is after this happened me and my friend just drifted apart and now I never see her its been 2 years since it all happened and I want to forgive her but I don't no. I no it was the right thing to do but I don't think I can trust her again
Please help me I really miss her we had the best time together we were really close.?

[ScottGem]

Asking a 12 year old to keep such a secret (especially since it should NOT have been kept) was asking a great deal. That she kept it a secret for 4 years is amazing. I suspect that she finally gave it up because she felt it really shouldn't have been a secret.

So yes I think you really do need to forgive her.

[fisha002]

Asking a 12 year old to keep such a secret (especially since it should NOT have been kept) was asking a great deal. That she kept it a secret for 4 years is amazing. I suspect that she finally gave it up because she felt it really shouldn't have been a secret.

So yes I think you really do need to forgive her.

She wasent 12 she was 14 just
And I no she did the right thing but its just not that easy
I want to forgive her I really do

[ScottGem]

12, 14 doesn't make much of a difference.

[Eelarch]

You can be friends again but you don't have to trust her, its easy just not to tell people things just as long as you two don't become best friends and you tell other people things because then she could get angry that you didn't tell her. Its easier just to forgive people and move on than having grudges

[THEpurplepeanut]

She was just trying to help you, if I were you I would keep a friend who is looking out for me, she was just thinking of your safety and well being, don't be mad at her for trying to help you, forgive and forget