[aiyerrc]

My and my current GF have been dating for 3 months this past Tuesday. We are very much in love and we frequesntly talk about a long and loving future together. I am currently a junior in college and she is a freshman. We spend everyday together and she sleeps over 5 or 6 nights a week. Like I saidm I firmly believe we are very much in love with each other. She is everything I am looking for in a partner, and she has told me repeatedly that I am perfect for her. She's very sweet and her family loves me.

Because this is going so perfect and has only gotten better with each passing day, it is also the reason I tend to worry too much. There is nothing wrong with our relationship. We are open and communicate very well. However, sometimes, I feel as if I am too dependent on her. I also feel as if I am too controlling sometimes as well. Although, I don't let her see it, I often find myself just sitting in my room thinking about her, waiting for her to call when we aren't together or if she's with her friends. She is in a sorority and I am in a fraternity and we have active social lives and close circle of friends.

I am deathly terrified she will cheat on me, but at the same time, I completely trust her, which is weird. Every time we aren't hanging out I feel like she doesn't like me anymore, which I know is wrong, but I still feel that way anyway. I need someone to please give me some insight on what to do with myself. I know I have nothing to worry about, but at the same time, its almost impossible for me to not think about her constantly. I want to be with her at all times, but its only because I love her so much and don't want to spend my time with anyone else. Tonight, I'm just being paranoid and freaking out, and I don't know why. We had planned on being just hanging out tonight, but she called me a few hours ago to tell me she was going party hoppin with her girlfriends. I expressed I was upset and she said I was making her feel guilty and that she thought I would like a night with my guy friends. This is honestly the first night she has gone out with them in months, so I have no ground to be upset with her, it was just my initial reaction. She said she wants to come over afterward and I said okay.

I know its long and probably whiny, but someone just tell me to shutup and I have nothing to worry about, or tell me how to think with a different mindset and not worry so much and that its just me being paranoid. Thanks

[NItEMArE129]

It's been 3 months. I'm not sure if you're actually in love right now unless you've known her for a long time. And I don't think the problem is that you're dependent at all. I think it's something else, possibly insecurities? Keep an open mind; it's only been 3 months after all.

[Starbucks21]

From what I can tell, You have a very loving relationship. You 2 do however spend a lot of time together and I bet it's almost to the point where you feel like she's attached to your hip? You also seem to be a little bit of the jealous type. This part isn't love but I can be at times too.

Well my advice is... Keep more guy time (poker nights/seeing action movies/other guys stuff). When you spend a lot of time together it sometimes gets difficult to enjoy the time you are together.

And talk to her about your trust issues/insecure side (a friendly little nice talk). Tell her you know it's illogical and you love her. You opening up to her may strengthen your bond with her. Communication is very important.

I think part that feels too controlling is insecure/trust issue side. You may want to talk to a school consular about this. It may help you work it out.

Nobody will ever tell you to shut up here.

[ferrell_2006]

You have the "its to good to be true syndrome" which is quite common which is the reason your afraid she will cheat or something but its only been 3 months so it is hard to tell what is going to come out of the whole situation but one thing for sure a female needs time with her girls or she will probably end up being pretty upset relax you both need time with friends if you get to clingy or close however you want to think of it in 3 months you will be screwed in 6 or 7 or 8 etc... another thing from experiece being together that much specially after 3 months of dating it will only end bad... you need your own space but don't spend every day together or even 6 or 7 its too much for the short period and it will lead to fights... but good luck!

[talaniman]

Dude, you should be having a good time getting to know her, not worrying about all kinds of crazy stuff. Why sabotage yourself?