wanting baby, 1475765, Your right I'm not happy but if he would only realize that I'm not asking the world of him
Sorry to disagree but that's exactly what your asking him. He would have to give up his whole world to give you what you want. He doesn't want to.
I think he is afraid of commitment.
That may well be true, but he is committed to himself.
He has been living with his parents his whole life and has had no one but himself to worry about
Obviously that's what he wants to do with his life.
He is very independent and stuck in his own ways. Any way to work around this?
He is 42 years old, and comfortable with what he is doing. That's to be expected.
I feel your plight but your goals are not realistic with this fellow, and if its so important to carry out your plan, and your timetable, sorry he ain't the one, nor will he ever be, it seems.
Your decision to make, as his position is clear and your right you are not on the same page, and you can't get around that without his full co operation.
You either change your plans, or change your man!