Hi I am 28 yrs of age and have been dating a 42 yr old man for 3.5 yrs now. I just met his parents this spring. He does not live with me, I have 4 kids with my ex husband and this guy has none. He's never been married and he still lives at home with mom and dad. He works a lot job and a half. I love him very much he is a great man, very kind selfless and caring. He loves my kids. Would do anything for us. But he doesn't like to talk about getting married or someday having a baby together. I want to marry him, I asked him 9 months into the relationship I bought the ring and proposed.. he turned me down. I can understand now because it was too soon but what about now its been so long. I don't know what to do.. I don't want to lose him but I have a goal for my life and I know where I want to go with my life and if he's not willing to be on the same page as me what do I do? I wrote to Miss Lonely hearts a yr ago and she thought that he was cheating on me which isn't the case. He has not time to cheat. He is a very personal man he doesn't go around talking about us at all or our problems. I have been telling him that I want to be engaged by the 4 yr mark was I wrong to do that? Please help me figure out what to do.