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lil gal · Jan 8, 2009, 01:14 PM

how do i get over my ex boyfriend that i loved him with all my heart he meant the world to me n i wanted him back so i asked him out n he always told me he loved me that he will think about it then 2 days after that he went behind my back n got with my bestfriend n she knew how much he meant to me how do i get over all this pian in my heart?

lil gal · Jan 8, 2009, 01:16 PM

I don't know

NItEMArE129 · Jan 8, 2009, 01:17 PM

Try this link.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...id-214452.html

As for your friend... drop her like a bad habit. A real friend wouldn't do that to you.

kctiger · Jan 8, 2009, 01:19 PM

Originally Posted by lil gal

idk

I know...

This guy deserves no tears from you. He is absolute garbage and completely disrespected you. Not only that, but obviously your friend wasn't that good of a friend either. Re-evaluate the people you have in your life, because friends don't hurt each other, period.

Just read the stickies on this forum, and whatever you do, DO NOT give him the time of day. Don't call, text, Facebook, nothing. Leave him alone, and ignore him if he tries to get in touch with you. You don't deserve this kind of treatment, no one does. He will get what is coming to him... Karma!

Sorry you are hurting, but don't let such a low life get to you, as you will find you are better off without him.

ZoeMarie · Jan 8, 2009, 01:24 PM

In addition to what others have told you, don't blame yourself for anything. I know it's hard not to in situations like this, but a lot of people do. It's not your fault. What goes around comes around. Sounds like it's time to make some new friends.

kctiger · Jan 8, 2009, 01:26 PM

Originally Posted by ZoeMarie

In addition to what others have told you, don't blame yourself for anything. I know it's hard not to in situations like this, but a lot of people do. It's not your fault. What goes around comes around. Sounds like it's time to make some new friends.

Had to spread the rep Zoe (whatever that means), but this is completely true. Sometimes, the victims of this stuff blame themselves... BUT DO NOT DO THAT. You can't fix stupid (meaning him).

talaniman · Jan 8, 2009, 01:28 PM

Leave them both alone, as they both betrayed your trust, and it will take time to get over that hurt.

ZoeMarie · Jan 8, 2009, 01:28 PM

Originally Posted by kctiger

You can't fix stupid (meaning him).

I love that saying. I actually just said that to my friend the other day, referring to one of her friends. So true.

Romefalls19 · Jan 8, 2009, 01:31 PM

I agree with everyone else, forget both of them. You will meet people like that in your life sometimes, but don't let them get you down. That is what gives them power, to make them powerless, smile on every time you walk by.

"A true friend stabs you in the front"

RogerNapalm · Jan 8, 2009, 01:40 PM

I would get rid of the both of them. Move on with your life.

tictac16 · Jan 10, 2009, 12:23 AM

This was what happen to me in a way. But what I learn is to TRY NOT TO CARE. Its hard but you have to. Life goes on. Its been 9 months for me and still I'm hurt, but I try to live my life to the fullest. And you need to do the same.

MarkwithaK · Jan 10, 2009, 12:43 AM

#1. Would it kill you to use a freakin period in that post? Making it all one big long run on sentence makes it hard to read.

#2. You move on. From both the boyfriend and best friend.

411Help · Jan 10, 2009, 02:04 AM

Simple. Ignore them both. Don't give them the pleasure to see you upset. They are nothing to you anymore.

inertia · Jan 13, 2009, 08:32 AM

Little gal. I feel your pain. I went through this about 5 months ago. My ex started sleeping with my band mate 5 days after we split. I couldn't figure out why. I was crushed. For one thing, I didn't think this guy was any kind of threat. Secondly, my ex's family and my family are deeply entwined. We also had the same circle of friends. I blamed myself for trusting people too much. I couldn't figure out why anyone would do this to anyone. After time and distance. I still don't have any answers. Here's the good news though. I care a hell of a lot less. I know I'm better off with all of those people out of my life. Could you even imagine starting a relationship off like that? Talk about walking in to a relationship with trust issues. Both of those people are incredibly selfish and neither of them will have healthy relationships with each other or friends until they wise up. No one deserves to be betrayed like this. When they get sick of each other, which they probably will I wouldn't be surprised if at least one of them comes crawling back to you but it won't matter. You need to rise above their way of life and move on to better people.