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gunjanvenaik · Jan 2, 2009, 08:14 AM

Hi guyz .I just want to know why my ex who initiated the break up is calling me now [ I don't receive his calls ]... he told me he was a ditcher he was a flirt earlier.. he told me that and he said he never got emotionally attached to a girl and never thought of long term with them.. but he said he is emotionally attached to me and thinking of long term with me.. I use to always complaint to him.. I was very possessive for him... he is a virgo born on the 31st of August .

[B]he broke up because he said he wanted to concentrate on his carrier and doesn't like me complainig all the time .

Few days before he called me and then sent a message saying '' hi ''... and then sent a message to me on a festival saying '' its fine v r not together but this doesn't mean v don't wish each other ''.. I did nt reply to him...

I just want to know why is he doing this when he himself inintiated the breakup thingy.! Huh! :cool:

kctiger · Jan 2, 2009, 08:20 AM

I want to know what astrology has to do with this... why does him being a virgo even need to be mentioned? Just curious...

gunjanvenaik · Jan 2, 2009, 08:26 AM

Thought it would help... I thought tellnig about the zodiac would help.. nyhow I didn't get my answer.. huh :(

kctiger · Jan 2, 2009, 08:30 AM

Well... it is all in the way you want to be treated. He broke up with you, yet he keeps in contact with you, as if you are some "pet" that he keeps around in case he needs someone to fall back on. Once he finds someone else, he won't contact you anymore. Think about it this way. When you throw something away, do you empty the trash, or do you keep that same garbage can around just in case you need to get something out? Not to compare you to trash by any means (bad analogy), but he expects to break up with you yet keep in contact with you... that isn't fair to you. The, "I want my cake and be able to eat it too," line... don't let him play games with you.

gunjanvenaik · Jan 2, 2009, 09:01 AM

But then why he keep asking about me from my coulegues... though I am over him but just to satisfy my ego I want him to run after me.. huh .poor me.. lol

gunjanvenaik · Jan 2, 2009, 09:05 AM

He called up one of our common friends and was asking about me , as in , how m I doing... then as soon as I got to know about it I abused him that time itself and after that no calls nuthing..

talaniman · Jan 2, 2009, 09:17 AM

How old are you?

gunjanvenaik · Jan 2, 2009, 09:26 AM

I'm 23... I dono why but I'm not able to digest the very fact that sumbody played around with me... I m a girl guyz use to be scared ooff... my friends use to say I can kick ny boys butt oofff... my ego is all shattered.. though I don't want him nymore but I'm feeling really bad how dare heeee... [if he actually flirted ]... I dono why but I feel he got attached to me the way he use to behave.. huh!

talaniman · Jan 2, 2009, 10:23 AM

I am 55, and would appreciate English, please as my daughter is not here to translate this for me.

Have mercy.

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N0help4u · Jan 2, 2009, 10:40 AM

There is a lot more to a person than just astrology. If he has a lot of two numbers in his name as well it could explain more than simply being Virgo.
It sounds to me like he was use to just being a playboy type that was use to jumping in and out of relationships but when he jumped out of the one with you he realized you meant more to him.
He may want another chance with you but not sure about it yet.

411Help · Jan 2, 2009, 12:08 PM

Leave this guy alone. He's just using you as a fall back plan until he finds another girl.

liz28 · Jan 2, 2009, 02:48 PM

It's not important to why he is calling you because you shouldn't want him anyway.

It's good that your answering his calls but if he's calling too much you can always get a new number. Tell your friends not to tell him your business and leave this guy in the past.

Don't let his ruin your ego because he's not worth it. Also, I don't understand how him trying to get a hold of you is ruining your ego?

Who knows why he is calling you. Maybe he wants to get back with you or just be nosy or want to be friends but don't give in to him.

sallietomatoh · Jan 2, 2009, 03:46 PM

A virgo did this to me for five yearshe dumped me then kept showing up periodically. It took me a few years to realize that this man did not love me.

Honestly, I think that he just didn't have the guts to leave me completely-that had nothing to do with love. You need ask yourself if it's love because if it isn't there's no sense wasting you heart on someone like that.

The bottom line for him was that he didn't want to be with me but he didn't want anyone else to be with me either. What I thought was love was just him being selfish.

The thing I took away from this is that if a man wants to be with youu, he'll be with you.

Good luck!

gunjanvenaik · Jan 3, 2009, 01:55 AM

Yea may b... I m a very egoistic person I can't accept the very fact that he actually ditched me.. huh!. that is it... and his friends keep on callnig me... now after me abusing him he did nt call...

Nowadays I got to know about him that he stopped drinking [ he use to drink a lottttttttttttttt]... I suppose he is changing... may be not because of me but because of his carrier

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I forgot to tell you people one more thing.. before the breakup v were in talking terms but then one of his friends told me something bt him.. I got angry and didn't t talk to him for 11 days and when I called him up he said '' he is fed up all this tension and don want to continue with it.. but he wanted me to discuss about the carrier thing about not about the relationship... n that very day he called me thrice... n then next day he again called me asking me.. whether I'm fi9 or not.. n when I asked him he said '' I will be oki... was it a lie? Huh!

We were together for 5 months and next 3 months it was lond distance relationship.. he use to call me twice everyday...

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gunjanvenaik · Jan 4, 2009, 06:35 AM

Read it thanks for the info.. bt I didn't get the answers... huh

debtaiwan · Jul 7, 2010, 11:41 PM

Hello there,
From my point of view, he was just bored with too much spare time by himself. He sounds real selfish and only cared about himself. Check your heart,darling. Have you been loved? What 's the defination of love to you? Ask yourself if what he does is really the defination of love? If he did love you why would he leave you? A guy will make it happen if he wants you. Give yourself sometime, move on to new life withought him because as far as I am concern, he has made your life very unpleasant. He is not worth it.