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    greeneyedbaby Posts: 60, Reputation: 2
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    Dec 9, 2008, 01:04 PM
    Pretty sure I was played.
    So I have gone on a few dates with this guy over the 7-8 months. For the past few months we haven't talked at all. This last weekend he called me and asked me if I wanted to hang out. So I did. I went with him while he ran some errands and then we picked up a pizza and a movie and headed back for his house. While we were watching the movie we kissed a little bit and he got a little handsy. I told him that I didn't want to have sex unless I was in a relationship. So he said well that's make it offcial and be together. I still told him no sex but we did fool around a little bit. But here is the problem on the date he opened my door for me and was sweet and attentive. But now he won't text me he won't call me. I have even texted and called him. My friend said to give him 3 days and if I hear nothing from him that it was just a line. Is that really how it works? I'm not a cheater and don't want to cheat on him, but how long do I wait for him to get hold of me before I consider myself played?
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    Dec 9, 2008, 01:09 PM

    I wouldn't wait too long for him to come around.

    Do you really think the way you became boyfriend and girlfriend was that official to think that you would cheat on him?

    You may not want to have sex with other people, but you can surely talk to other guys and get to know them without saying that you are cheating on this guy.

    He is not taking your feelings into consideration. You shoulnd't do that for him.
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    chrissymarie Posts: 563, Reputation: 53
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    Dec 9, 2008, 01:18 PM

    Girl if he's your boyfriend and won't answer the phone get a new one. Sounds to me like he's just trying to hit it. Think about it... He only wanted to make it official after you tolf him you wouldn't have sex with him until you 2 were. I think the little bit of fooling around with you he got was enough. He'll come around when he's horny just wait and watch.
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    SimpleguyJoe Posts: 302, Reputation: 68
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    Dec 9, 2008, 04:25 PM

    I really would not consider you as being played. You stood up for yourself, made the right decisions and did not put out. If he was just intrested in sex he won't call back or the next time he does he will throw you the line "well now that it's official it's ok to have sex" He might even throw this at you after not talking to you for a week or two.

    Just be mindful of yourself and don't settle for anything less than what you want there are plenty of guys out and about.
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    N0help4u Posts: 19,823, Reputation: 2035
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    Dec 9, 2008, 05:01 PM

    I agree with simpleguyjoe
    You weren't exactly played he was testing to see what he could get and saw he couldn't get you to give in. He TRIED playing you.
    Some guys think that if you do not go all the way you aren't worth their time, while you on the other hand feel that if he really cared he would be pursuing you and making a relationship.
    Chalk it up to a life lesson.

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