[shinigaml]

Ok, so I'm having a situation at school where I really like this girl in my class. I've known her for almost a month and everything was going well. We would talk a lot, have a lot in common and there would be a lot of physical 'touching' going on between us. Such as long long hugs that turn into a slow dance, a lot of cheek to hand touching on both sides(me and her), and simply getting close to one another by "flirting".

So at this point, I really think that she is into me. When we're together, we laugh and smile and enjoy one anothers company. Just today, I found out she had a boyfriend(or what it may appear to be her boyfriend) when I saw them kiss in front of me when he happened to walk by us. So I, at this point was really confused because I didn't quite understand what was going on.

The problem is, she's a grade older than me and I really don't know much about how she treats boys that are her friends and whatnot. I don't know if the way she acts with me is the same as the way she acts with her guy friends.

So now, I don't know what I should do tomorrow.

-Act like nothing happened and continue to just be her friend in hopes that she would like me. But stop the flirting.
-Just let the flirting between us still happen and continue on like nothing happened?
-Talk to her about the issue and get it cleared up, see how she really feels about me.
-Or anything else?

I really don't know how she feels about me but when we were together and I didn't know she had a boyfriend, I really felt like we both had something for each other. The fact that she flirts with me and no other boys in my class also confuses me and annoys me now.

I've heard about the whole "emotional doormat" thing but could this possibly be a "flirting doormat" where she dumps all the physical "flirting" on me(sounds kind of stupid and funny eh). And I don't know if this could be the case because I really don't know how long she has been with him, or how their relationship is going. For all I know, her "love" life with that guy could be fairly weak or in bad terms so that she just flirts with me(basically using me).

I really need help on what to do tomorrow and what this girl is getting at with me. She's such an amazing girl but I don't want to ruin the friendship between us.

[N0help4u]

Act like nothing happened and continue to just be her friend and definitely stop the flirting. When she wonders why no flirting bring up that you hadn't realized she had a boyfriend. If she tries to make it out like he is not a boyfriend don't trust that until you know for sure.

[TrueFaith]

Stay away from her.

If she asks what's wrong say I don't flirt with girls that have boyfriends ;)

And leave it like that

[shinigaml]

Well also... I just realized one more thing while I was pondering.

I know for a fact she's not a slutty type of person. And I know for a fact that the stuff she does to me is defined as "flirting". Although I don't know how she acts around her guy friends, I know she wouldn't be doing that(what she does to me) to them, ESPECIALLY when her bf's around. So it makes me wonder if she's only doing it to me... And it's really hard to "avoid" her when she sits literally 2 seats across from me and whenever I need to go up to the front of the class for my homework, she always 'pulls' me in.

Like today, I was going back to my seat when she would just grab my arm with her two arms and literally embrace it. And she'd make me get really close to her like that and I was pretty on her back.

And I don't want to make her hate me either. If she did really like me, which may be the case, I don't want her to hate me for my actions in the future. And I know she's got a boyfriend but it's just really hard to let go of someone who keeps "pulling" you back in.

[N0help4u]

Whatever you do you need to not let her flirting get out of hand.
You need to tactfully find a way to let her know that you don't appreciate her flirting with you as long as she is with somebody else.
Your right that it is best you don't get her hating you but at the same time she has to come to realize she needs to stop the flirting.

[shinigaml]

Whatever you do you need to not let her flirting get out of hand.
You need to tactfully find a way to let her know that you don't appreciate her flirting with you as long as she is with somebody else.
Your right that it is best you don't get her hating you but at the same time she has to come to realize she needs to stop the flirting.

Would this help me to somehow make her want me? Or is this to make me move on in life and find someone else?

[talaniman]

Don't be so easy guy, she doesn't like you like that, and your all hot around the collar, and bothered by FLIRTING?! She may get you bothered, and all teased up, because you let her, and she knows there is nothing you can do about it.

Personally unless she comes with it with more than just flirting, then I would believe she is nothing but a tease.

Some young females are like that so be careful young guy. You get to carried away and they tell everyone how your chasing them, and its so not anything she is doing.

Bet she wants the b/f jealous by your giving her attention.

They also do it to keep other females away from you, and it works very well as your to distracted to notice any one else.

The bottom line is, never let someone confuse you, with the wrong kind of attention, especially if you can't handle it rationally.