[jhump2]

I started dating my good friend's cousin roughly two months ago. We had met each other a few years before we actually started dating. My good friend, the cousin, my cousin, and I all lived together at that time. She was actually dating my cousin at the time and that is how I met her. I remember from then thinking my cousin did not deserve and their relationship only lasted a few months. Well, I had not seen after they broke up for a few years. My good friend invited her to come out with us a couple months ago and we immediately hit it off. As I said before, I knew she was a good girl before and deserved someone that would treat her well.

Since we hit it off so well that night we decided to start seeing more of each other and went on some dates. All the dates went well and we decided after a two weeks to start seeing each other exclusively. We live an hour away from each other and whenever we would visit each other, whether at her place or at mine, we would sleep over instead of driving all the way home. I got to know her family extremely well, she lives with her mother, father, sister, and brother, and they were amazing and seemed to think highly of me as well.

Now is where the problems start to come in. About four weeks into the relationship, we went out with her friends to a bar and became fairly intoxicated. Well, as we were laying in bed I came out with the L word, to which she replied she was feeling the same way too. For the next few weeks we were ending text messages and phone conversations with the L word but I did start to notice she was starting to become a little more distant from that moment on. When I visited she seemed less lovey and her kisses seemed to have a difference to them. The last time I stayed with her she seemed distant. I stayed the night, and all she had to do the next day was a work meeting for a half an hour, and instead of asking if I just wanted to wait for her to get back from her meeting, it seemed as if she was ready for me to go home. I did not call her for the next two days. She called the third day and broke it off. The reasons were she was not sure if she was ready for a relationship, things were moving really fast and she gets scared when she has feeling for someone (more on that in a minute), and the drama with my ex.

I will now explain the drama with my ex. I won't go into the whole of that relationship but it was a long one. We had ended out relationship for good probably about a month before I started dating the new girl, but that relationship was really over well before that. We only hooked up for sexual comfort reasons really. Neither of us had slept with many people, and so it was convenient for us to just sleep with each other. The arguments were still the same and both of us knew we would not be with the other for marriage or anything. Well, the drama came as I was at the new girl's cousin's place until 4 in the morning and my ex texted me making fun of my new girl and saying mean things like at least she is skinnier than her and she had a loose vagina. I know juvenile. Well, I talked to the new girl the next day, and I thought it best to tell her I talked to my ex. I just wanted this relationship to start with the truth. Well, when I told her I talked to my ex she wanted to know what she said and I told her exactly what was said. She was very offended. I saw her that night and that was actually the night the L word was exchanged.

Her past relationships had been rough. She dated a guy for a couple of years before my cousin that cheated on her many times. She then dated my cousin which actually tried to hit her a couple times. Then she went back to her ex and he did it again.

I know this is a long story. I have put this all out there because when we broke up she made it clear she really likes me and that she wants us to be able to talk. She thinks I am special and that she believes there really might be something there with us. She said it was just to overwhelming how fast everything was moving and that she was confused. I really care about this one. We broke up a little over a week ago and actually spoke 3 days ago. She knew I was really sad and I could tell me being sad bothered her. I assured her that I am not mad at her and I just want her to be happy, think highly of me, and remember our good times. She said she was thankful I said that and she felt better. She also said she only thinks good things about me.

Her cousin called me last night and asked about how I was doing. She told me that her cousin really appreciated my message and that she really likes me, just things went too fast. Her sister and her best friend, earlier in the week also basically mimicked the same message; she is confused, things moved very fast, and that she really likes me. With all that has happened I have decided to not contact her and just give her her space and see what happens. My heart skips a beat when I think of her but I do not want to risk pushing her away by being impatient. Well audience, would love your opinion. Do I wait? Should I not contact her and let her make her move when and if she is ready?

[kitten420]

I think that you should give her her space and even maybe you shld think for a little bit. Do you really believe that it can be love? Or are you just overwhealed with this adventure you have taken with her? Like you I was in the same situation except me and my boyfriend both felt it and we have been together every since.


I met my boyfriend Jamie through a friend. Ever since I laid eyes on him it was like one big adventure and I was completley and un controllably in love with him It was love at first sight it was as we had known each other our whole lives. It was actually after two weeks and a day that Jamie said he loved me and at first I was in shock because not only was it soon but I also felt the same way and let me tell you sometimes it gets tough but we have been so happy together. It will be 5 months on the 18th that we have been together.


Maybe your girl is confused like she says she is. I would deffinatly give her some space and wait to see if she calls you. And when she does contact you just let her know you didn't mean to scare her or anything. I really hope you guys get back together and good luck to you!

[face_reality]

When a girl say any of the following -- I am confused, I am shy, I need space, too fast, too slow, it means her interest has gone down the hill. So cut all forms of relationship and move on. Don't try to rationalize with her. Just move on with your diginity intact.