[rileighr]

I am Sixteen. I am in love. People say you can't find love in high school. Well I say, we're proving them wrong day after day. I know what I want, and I'm willing to fight for it. I want to marry him, but how?

[liz28]

In most states when your under the age of 18 you can't get married without a parent consent. You can state what you state you live in.

You state you love him, and I guess he feels the same about you, but take this time to get to know each other more because marriage is build on more things then love. Plan for your future and start thinking about what you want to do, if you haven't already.

Right now there's should be no rush.

[Clough]

Hi, rileighr!

I wholeheartedly agree with the above answer and would like to add a few things here.

When do you want to marry him, please? It would help to know that.

The first wedding that I played for as an organist, I was 14, the groom was 15 and the bride was 16.

If you're thinking of getting married before you both are adults and both really know what you want out of life and are also able to be the ones who support your household in a place of your own, and it being supported financially by only the two of you, rather than from any other outside source other than either of you having jobs, it would be best to wait until you are both able to do that.

Thanks!

[donf]

Rieighr,

What are you going to wear to your Prom? Have you been to your Ring Dance yet? Are you going to go onto college, assuming you graduate High School? What color are you planning to do your nails the next time you do them?

These are the types of things you need to be thinking about now, not marriage!

I'm not saying any of this to be mean. My wife and I married very young (18). I can tell you from my experience that marriage was a nightmare for us for the first 4 years. Just learning how to live together was difficult but we also had to find a way to exist within society. Rent an apartment (you had to be 21 in New York City at that time). How to get furniture. I remember that the first thing we did buy was a Sears washing machine so we would have clean clothes. I had to get my oldest brother to counter sign the lease for our apartment.

By the time we reached 22, we finally learned to live in each other's world. It was not an easy thing for me to learn. I went from footloose and fancy free at 18 to married with a 5'3" walking talking conscience that just would not go away because I told her to listen to me. My God! She had her own sense of right and wrong and what behavior she would tolerate and what she would not. What a battle we had just learning how to fight fairly.

Then came the next education block. A child and our world got all jumbled up again.

Please wait and enjoy your teen world. Life will be there for you and so will marriage. It will expand when you marry and totally change your view of yourself and the people around you.

Good luck!

[xoxaprilwine]

I understand where your coming from. I started dating my husband at fresh 16 and he was 17. I was so caught up in our relationship I missed my prom and dating other guys... I even lost all my 120 friends after a while. We dated for 6 years before we got married... I didn't go to university... I could have done soooooo much with my life! (Even with him) In fact I would have been a lawyer NOT a paralegal!! Watch your decisions... getting married doesn't change ANYTHING in a relationship - its just a piece of legal paper that dictates under the eyes of the government you have legal rights and obligations. If your religious then its in the eyes of the lord but you can't make these decisions yet, you don't even know what life is... your a child! I don't mean to be rude but I was there and I have been through a similar relationship. Get this I am married now for 4 years with a 2 year old daughter and am now pregnant with our son... we have nice cars and a house! We have OK jobs so what I am trying to say is there is no rush... marriage can wait and if it was meant to be then it will happen. Do me a favor, spend time with the girls, do all the things a 16 year old does, have fun, seek education as your first priority and he will be there supporting you. All good things happen in time. I have NO regrets about my husband but I do regret not spending time with the girls and seeking out my education. Best regards.