[someone1989]

Now adays I have a big problem!I broke my date with my boy friend 1 month ago.Because he was married and his wife undrestod about our dating and called me and menaced me that I must leave her husband alone!Then I decided to do this and bereak our dating and I said him it is not possible that we continiue our dating.But he persisted a lot and said he is really fell in love me and need me and there is no problem we can keep in touch like before this happenings!I said OK but we won't have any sexual act like before.He said it is OK and if you want this I will acsept.But he tried to do that again and said me I really need your lips and your body please come here beside me.I did not do this and I won't of course!
But the problem is that he is not pationt and it seems he is going to break.But I don't want to let him do it because the last time his wife really insulted me and my heart broke just cause of him this time I want break his pride and personality because he thinks that he can do every thing he want with me and just he can decide when start and when break!I want break but not now I want he really undrestand what happened for me last time and become really sad cause of our breaking!
What should I do?

[starbuck8]

This is very simple. LEAVE HIM ALONE!. HE'S A MARRIED MAN! Why are you worried about HIS pride, and not your OWN! I would bet this man has children too, doesn't he. Do you really want to be a homewrecker, and hurt children and a family? This man has no pride or morals to begin with, or he would not be seeing you while he is married.

Listen to his wife! She should probably get rid of this cheater too, but she has EVERY right to be angry with you. She should also be just as angry with her husband, but that is between them.

It doesn't even matter if you are having sex with him. That does not make you any better. You are still interfering in their marriage. Even if he did leave his wife to be with you, trust me, he will also do this to you, and probably leave you behind with more children. That is pretty much a guarantee. Have some respect for yourself, and cut off all contact.

[JBeaucaire]

It doesn't matter how you choose to rationalize the problems you two are having, as long as he is married, you will have these problems over and over and over and over and over and over.

You cannot create a peace in your life and your heart while you court a married man. Whether you are having sex or not is another rationalization. It doesn't matter. Well, it does, it's just you're not going to solve anything ELSE, not having sex means that at least you won't get pregnant and make this situation permanent.

Everyone is going to come on here and tell you to leave him alone. I'm going to say something else - accept the hell you've chosen for yourself, or get out.

I'm not telling you to leave him, I'm telling you to look in the mirror, choose the life you want, then stop whining about what that means. If you stay, this is the drama of your every day. If you leave, you will have to live with the pain of the breakup.

Either way, you created this, now choose your pain, then live with it. Both paths lead to pain, but one of them leads to freedom and a possible future without permanent pain. The other does not.

BUT... you do get to choose for yourself.

[someone1989]

Well it seems that I have to explain more!I decided to leave him alone and I will do that!But I want break his pride and trample underfoot!! This is my gol!! If I am still keep in touch with him it is just cause of my gol!
Because I foud out he is a depraved man and he like to continue with me because I am younger than his last girlfreinds! I want show him I am the best but I am not his any more!Be sure I am not fell in love him any more and I never want to be a homewrecker and keep his children!
Well perhaps this is a good word yes I want to revenge from him!Because he think he can do evry thing he like!But here is a little problem he is my boss!! I want break his pride and personality this is my gol!!
Well I know that a man who was'n faithful to his wife won't be to his girl friend or second wife!
I don't think that they have any problem with each other!I mean he and his wife.Because he is a cinema director and this is very usual between them and in their job!
Of course she must be angry with me but she said some things about me which wasn't true.She said I am a... woman but I am not!Really I am not!Because he was my first boy friend and we did not have sex!just some sexual acting not more.But I know I did wrong and I shouldn't keep in touch a married man.Perhaps if I were her I did worse!
The only thing that made me to be with him was that I thaugh he really loves me and love is very holy for me.But I was wrong and he wasn't fall in love me.He was fall in love sex with me.

Any way my gol is that break with him and live him alone but before that break his pride and his heart because he did it with me and I want to retaliate it!
Now how can I do it in a safe way!Just break his personality and not more.

[starbuck8]

I think we have a language barrier here. I guess that is why we didn't completely understand your question. I thought from how you phrased your question, that you wanted to be with this man, and have his wife out of the picture, because he loved you. There is some confusion here.

So, let me get this straight. You are continuing to see this man, your boss, until you can formulate a plan to make him look bad to others and his wife? I thought from what you said that you already had sex with him, and that you stopped doing that when his wife found out.

I also don't understand why you are upset that his wife called you a woman? I don't know where you are from, but where I am from, you basically become a woman when you start your menstral cycle, not after the first time you have sex. although most are still little girls even after they get their first period.

So I am still quite confused. Do you want tips on how to get revenge?

[JBeaucaire]

Starbuck, the forum deleted the word she said his wife called him. :rolleyes::D

As for "getting him"... a man who will cheat long-term on his wife and kids won't be affected in any way long-term by anything you do to him. And he won't learn from you, especially not positive life-lessons. It's not going to happen.

In case you misunderstand, I repeat, you will waste ALL the time you spend trying to get him. No matter what you do, he'll keep doing what he wants.

Now that I fully understand your goal is to punish him, I can unsubscribe to this thread.

[someone1989]

Well it become a little hard!Well I want leave him alone I want get rid of him!I hate him now!but before that I want break his heart!It is exactly what I want!
His wife said me you are a scarlet woman she said you are a prostitute!(I meant scarlet woman by writing... woman!)But I am not this!Really I am not!
Yes we had sex and after that his wife found out we satopped and after that I undrestoud that I was wrong and I shouldn't continiue with him.Then I stopped it.
Now we are still keep in touch but we don't have sex.He wants it but I said no not any more.And I don't want to have sex with him again because I want break this dating.I hate him now because I know he is a depraved man.
Now did you get what I mean?

[starbuck8]

I'm out of here too! There is nothing to be gained by sticking around trying to get revenge. A man like this is not going to learn anything, and it would likely backfire on you to boot! It's a waste of time, and just not worth the energy put into it. Get on with your life, and let this man dig his own grave.

[J_9]

Just leave him alone. Don't keep in touch with him. Just erase him from your mind.

[Chery]

A bit of reality here.

You are probably without family or many friends there. He is a powerful person and his wife knows what her husband is like. You are not the first and will not be the last. He's familiar with girls like you and knows how to control them, even if you went to the police, he'd still probably win. He is not going to agree to no sex with you and eventually force you into it again... I don't think you want that.

You need to gather your belongings, your money and get away from there as fast as you can or you just might wind up being a collection of bones where nobody can find you. The strongest emotion that you should have right now is FEAR and get out fast!

You have been used, and I am sorry about that. But you are not the only one - and you should go back home to the warmth and love of a family that cares about you. If you don't have a family, find a shelter or church group somewhere, but GET AWAY from there NOW!

This is not a relationship, it is pure slavery.

[someone1989]

Well finally 3 weeks ago we breaked completlly and I lost my job.And it is very hard to find another job for myself.But he is trying to keep ijn touch with me yet!! I don't know what does he think babout me and what does he want!?

[starbuck8]

Apparently you like drama! Why the heck do you care what he thinks of you? First you want revenge, and now you are still caring about what he thinks of you. I think you need to find other activities! Leave this man alone, leave his wife alone, get a life for yourself, and get on with things! Why are you so intent on wasting your life?

He can't get in touch with you if you stop picking up your phone, answering texts, emails, etc. If he comes to someplace you are?. LEAVE! Don't talk to him period, and forget what he thinks of you. Why do you care? You are wasting your time with this loser, and you are playing games!