[In_the_saddle]

I am a divorced dad who has split custody of my 4.5 year old son. I have been dating someone for about 3 months now. I am not ready to tell my son that I am dating, and want to wait another 2-3 months before I do. My question is about when I should start talking to him about me dating, and what I should be telling him. My next question is about how I should introduce him to my girl friend should the appropriate time arise. Also she has a 7 year old son, and so should we be meeting each other individually before the kids meet? Not sure what makes sense, but would like to hear from others about their experiences.

Thanks

[DoulaLC]

As you have planned, it's a gradual process. Talk about making new friends... start with some outings together, picnic at the park, zoo, beach, chuck-e-cheese type of place, etc..

Include your child in some of the planning for these outings. Avoid any pda for awhile until everyone gets used to the idea of hanging out together... and then start slow when you do, holding hands, quick kiss or hug hello/goodbye, etc..

You'll be able to read the two children's comfort levels with how things are progressing and follow their cues, but do keep in mind it will be a fine line between allowing them to govern your relationship and helping them to move forward to a place where they are comfortable with you seeing someone... which will be inevitable and expected.