[Ostateguy21]

I dated a girl for 4 and a half years. We started dating my jr year of hs and moved in together when we went to college. We lived together for 3 years. We were both busy and let the passion kind of fall out of our relationship. We kind of moved apart and she finally told me we needed to live apart and that she thought she needed to be single for awhile. This was in the summer and she spent it Atlanta with her mom. She explained she needs to see college through single eyes and not having to be tied down. This makes sense to me especially since our relationship was having sum troubles. So now we are living apart. All of our friends are the same and we hang out a lot. We hang out alone too. We've even been sleeping together. Its kind of a friends with benefits thing. She told me it would have to be at least a semester before she could see getting back with me. She knows with me it would be serious and she doesn't want anything serious right now. Im not sure if I should keep sleepn with her. Part of me is like if I do then she will still have feelings for me. We have such a good connection and it kind of feels like we are still dating and living apart. But everyonce and awhile she makes sum statement that re affirms that we rnt. All her friends are single and it feels like she feels like she is missing out on sum great single time. I want to show her I appreciate her and I just want another chance at being together. Im not sure of the best way to get to this. Any answers would be greatly appreciated.

[rockerchick_682]

In my opinion, try to forget her. Move on to someone that can give themselves all the time, not only when they feel like it. She's using you as a safety net. She's looking for someone new, and if it doesn't work out, then you're there to fall back on. I'm sure you've both changed a lot during the transition from high school to college. I really believe that sometimes, things just don't work out.

[helpnow]

I would say stop sleeping with her. Right now there is no incentive from her eyes to become involved with you. She gets to have you when she wants because she knows you will be there. I would completely cut out any emotional involvement with her and limit how much you talk to her. It's kind of the grass is greener on the other side and right now that other side is living the single life. So if you let her know that no you are not there she will either go on her merry way or she will realize what she could be missing out on something great with you... either way at least you'll know and won't be waiting around.

[Ostateguy21]

Hey thanks for the help. I'm actually dating a new girl and my ex flipped. She cried and asked me if it meant we were never going to be together and I told her I didn't know. She wants to hang out all the time now. Lol. But I told her I can't because I want to see where it is going with this new girl.

[omega_red_08]

I'm in the same situation with my girlfriend. I am her safety net too. Whenever she needs money, advice, or some sort of stability in her life, she knows that I will be there. It isn't a good thing trust me. You seemed to have moved on but it's real hard for me to do. Kudos to you.