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Kinni · Jul 27, 2008, 11:01 PM

Greetings everyone,

I am an 18y/o virgin male and I have been in need of help with something since a long time ago. I am not an experienced person in making relationships and I've only been with two girls up to this point in my life. One was two years older than me and the other was my age. The last one is who I was currently with until she left me about a week ago. I understand I must move on and I accept that I should. However, in my first relationship I came close to having intercourse a couple of times, but we never did. On my last relationship we had very many chances since we were usually alone and we slept in the same bed for about a week and a half alone. We did believe that we should wait for a better time to have such a beautiful special moment as that. So we mutually agreed to not have any intercourse in our relationship till the time was right. I felt really destroyed when she left me, but after talking so some people I realized that she left me because she wanted more attention than I could afford. Anyhow, I digress...

Both females in my relationships were virgins, but of course they were at an early age as well. Now I am focused to live my life until the 'right one' comes along, but I fear that this 'right one' may not be a virgin.

To me, I think that the first encounter with sexual intercourse is very special and is never forgotten. I've been fighting many urges only so I could share that intimate moment with the right person. I've always feared that I would meet someone who's already been with someone else in bed. It would make me feel not as special. It would make me feel like our intimate moment won't be as special as it should only because she has already been through that experience before. The magic will no longer spark and the moment will be lost. This moment I long for is very special to me. Carnal pleasure is not troubling me so much, it's just the fact that the special moment has been had with someone else.

Due to the nature of our society, it is more common for younger teens to engage in such activities. So it's rather likely unusual to find an attractive female virgin, or so I believe.

I just want to know from other people who have seen more than I have, if I am correct in my chances to meet someone who is not a virgin. If maybe I just sound silly. Or maybe if I really do have higher chances of meeting a female virgin than what I truly believe? I don't really know what I'm asking, but any insight on whatever I wrote would help me find an answer.

Thanks for the time.

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Thank you all for your answers. The actual reason why I would prefer to be with a virgin like I said before is not physical pleasure but more of sentimental value. Everyone tends to drift to the physical side every time I ask this sort of question, but I am not actually that worried about the physical. It's more of an emotional thing. Would you guys care to elaborate on that?

KissMe10der · Jul 27, 2008, 11:12 PM

Don't let your feelings for a girl be deterred because she is not a virgin. Its not who she is, and you shouldn't judge her. If you cut out the women who aren't virgins... well you cut out a lot of wonderful women.

Seems odd, that your willing to have sex with a virgin... but not in marriage?

Sex is made special because two people love each other and want to express this feeling... and want to be connected.

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 27, 2008, 11:15 PM

Originally Posted by KissMe10der

Don't let your feelings for a girl be deterred because she is not a virgin. Its not who she is, and you shouldnt judge her. If you cut out the women who arent virgins... well you cut out alot of wonderful women.

Seems odd, that your willing to have sex with a virgin... but not in marriage?

Sex is made special because two people love each other and want to express this feeling... and want to be connected.

Some people just want to wait for the right time with the right person, not necessarily waiting for marriage...

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 27, 2008, 11:17 PM

Kinni,

I would suggest not limiting yourself to only virgins. Like it was said before there are lots of wonderful women that aren't virgins that you could miss the chance on getting to know. Besides if she isn't a virgin she knows how to make your first time far more memorable! ;):p:D:eek:

aaron133 · Jul 27, 2008, 11:22 PM

It has surely inspired many a teen picture but in real life creation love to an inexpert partner is fewer about scripted moves and more about gentleness sympathy and accepting. She will likely be nervous, you will be unsure how to carry on and you both will want a few pointers. Well then you have come to the right place.
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KissMe10der · Jul 28, 2008, 12:03 AM

Yes, the first time.. isn't always that great! Lol. It can even be painful for the girl. :(

Malikyla · Jul 28, 2008, 12:43 AM

Originally Posted by Kinni

Greetings everyone,

I am an 18y/o virgin male and I have been in need of help with something since a long time ago. I am not an experienced person in making relationships and I've only been with two girls up to this point in my life. one was two years older than me and the other was my age. The last one is who I was currently with until she left me about a week ago. I understand I must move on and I accept that I should. However, in my first relationship I came close to having intercourse a couple of times, but we never did. On my last relationship we had very many chances since we were usually alone and we slept in the same bed for about a week and a half alone. We did believe that we should wait for a better time to have such a beautiful special moment as that. So we mutually agreed to not have any intercourse in our relationship till the time was right. I felt really destroyed when she left me, but after talking so some people I realized that she left me because she wanted more attention than I could afford. Anyhow, I digress...

Both females in my relationships were virgins, but of course they were at an early age as well. Now I am focused to live my life until the 'right one' comes along, but I fear that this 'right one' may not be a virgin.

To me, I think that the first encounter with sexual intercourse is very special and is never forgotten. I've been fighting many urges only so I could share that intimate moment with the right person. I've always feared that I would meet someone who's already been with someone else in bed. It would make me feel not as special. It would make me feel like our intimate moment won't be as special as it should only because she has already been through that experience before. The magic will no longer spark and the moment will be lost. This moment I long for is very special to me. Carnal pleasure is not troubling me so much, it's just the fact that the special moment has been had with someone else.

Due to the nature of our society, it is more common for younger teens to engage in such activities. So it's rather likely unusual to find an attractive female virgin, or so I believe.

I just want to know from other people who have seen more than I have, if I am correct in my chances to meet someone who is not a virgin. If maybe I just sound silly. Or maybe if I really do have higher chances of meeting a female virgin than what I truly believe? I don't really know what I'm asking, but any insight on whatever I wrote would help me find an answer.

Thanks for the time.

Mostly, what I have to say is BRAVO! It's so very rare to find a young man with such a strict moral and emotional value system that is more interested in finding a young woman with a like mind rather than a 'random sexual experience'. I know these days the type of girl you are looking for is rare, and few and very far between, but please, hang in there! You will find that girl, the girl who is looking for the same things you are. I work with a few girls who fit that description exactly, who were brought up believing that the first experience is a gift, a treasure and they are waiting to make sure that they get what they have hoped for with a man who values them and makes it worth doing.

I don't have any other advice other than to believe that you really will find this girl. Don't be shy about stating your case with anyone who asks; be proud, and don't fall victim to any girl who thinks she can 'break you' because you are a virgin. You will know when you find that right one. Trust yourself.

On another note, have you ever considered trying a specialized dating service that is specific to people who have not yet had sex? I have no personal experience with this, as I am married, but with the internet so vast I'd have to guess they are out there somewhere. Give it a try.

You could always make a whole bunch of girl friends and see who they'd hook you up with! Girls always know what their friends are or AREN'T doing..

Good Luck...

Romefalls19 · Jul 28, 2008, 05:21 AM

You may need to broaden your "breeding" ground if you wish to find a partner.

Andrew916 · Jul 28, 2008, 06:22 AM

If you find your "special Someone" it shouldn't matter whether she's a virgin or not. We can't always get what we truly want- life just doesn't work that way. What would you do if you met the most amazing girl in world- a girl you could really live the rest of your life with- but she isn't a virgin? The bottom line is that it shouldn't matter.

talaniman · Jul 28, 2008, 07:42 AM

Find someone who cares about you, as much as you care about them, and over time you can learn and teach each other. Looking for a virgin is unrealistic in this day and age, as maybe they, be it male or female, have not had intercourse, but has engaged in every other sex act under the sun.

You will meet someone you care about and be they a virgin or not will not matter. The last thing you need is a virgin who doesn't care for you, or is incompatible with you.