[NothingMatters]

Hello there,

Im in a situation, I have been with my girlfriend for about 4 years. We have been away from each other for 1 year- as I am abroad. We were meant to get married next year. She will come with me for some time, then we go back.

7 Weeks Ago: She was constantly planning things up and asking me load of questions of how we going to do this and that. I was not responding as she expected - I know. I am supposed to meet her and her parents to discuss all that in 1 week time from now.

3 Weeks Ago: But she broke up with me. When she told me that I said OK, if this what she wanted. I had tears in my eyes and cried, She started to cry louder. Lol

I went insane and phone her for 2 days and had long discussions with her. She said I was harassing her, at that moment. I said I'm hanging up. I call her 1 week later to ask about her, but never spoke about US. She brought things up again. When I told her that I did not respond and blah blah, she was asking me " things like what"- well she knows..

1 Week ago: I saw her on the msn messenger, and I told her that I had to tell her something, She was acting smart and said TELL NOW or don't bother. I said but on the phone and I will call tonight. She even wanted to call me, but I said I was busy. . But at night she sent me a text asking when Im going to call. I talked about something,. Then she asked with a persistent voice "but you did not go with another woman in march, did you". I said no. I was chuckling... I said goodnight and hang up.

MY birthday was 5 days ago, She phoned me a few times, but I could not answer. I phoned back after 2 days but she was pissed-off as if. I apologized for not being able to take the call, she said it was days ago. But we did not talk much, I hangup. I asked her about her boyfriend, She said what boyfriend, I said I hope you having good fun together. She replied I hope my boyfriend is well ( think someone was with her)

I sent her a card 10 days ago, she received it yesterday, she text me to say "thank ypur for your card, you should not have given yourself so much pain. Take good are of yourself don't worry, life goes on. I never replied.

The whole thing, is that she told me she met someone when we broke up, but is not really going out ( which I doubt of course).

During all the conversations, I felt that she still have feelings, she was not totally indifferent and she was even trying to hurt me.

I will soon go home, and will meet with her and talk about things.

My feelings :Its like she feels I am distant and she needs someone now in her life. Scared that My stuff will take years and she does not want to lose her jobs, her parents are getting old and so on...

ANY SUGGESTIONS?

[chuff]

I'm confused as to what your asking? Either way she ended this... probably for another guy as you point out. So that's where you stand. She ended it and you need to let go of her and start to reclaim your own life at this time.

[Chery]

Hi NothingMatters.

You might have written a lot here, but you really didn't say anything. So, your Username does you justice.

If you were like this in the relationship, cold, unemotional and she couldn't count on you to keep an appointment or schedule, then why are you surprised that she is going on with her life? And when you did talk to each other.. you dropped an accusation (WOW, what a way of defending your wrong-doings).

You might not be unemotional, but she doesn't know it, not now - the way you acted. You frustrated the heck out of her. And, unless you are ready to do a heck of a lot of explaining as to why you could not call on time or be there on time and meet her parents (i.e. work, stress, war, fear, etc) then forget the attempt and go on with your life without her.

If you need to talk and need help in healing process, we are here - just be aware that things like this don't work over-night. By the way, happy belated B-Day.



Hi Chuff, nice to see you again, confused? You? No way!.