[8288]

Hi all,

I am a 20yrs girl. When I was 16yrs one boy fall in love with me.. But by that time I agree as my friend not as a lover... So he passed out my life.. Then I got a true friend during my college days. 3yrs we are very very closed. Then he says he like to marry me after his sister marriage. Now we both in love, I am very truthful to him. But there is girl in his office, She already having boyfriend, She send lots of sms, mail, phone call to my love.. like I love u, I missing u, I kiss u etc. He too message, her like the same way... When I asked about that matter, he says she is treating him like a child, She is another mother to him. But my boyfriend age is 26 that girl age 24. What is going between them.. If he cheating me??
I am very confused.. What I do? Help me

[N0help4u]

Kiss you and etc doesn't sound like motherly love
He is playing you for naïve and thinks his lame excuses should be enough to let you let him get away with it. Doesn't sound like someone I would trust.

[talaniman]

I don't know if he is cheating, or not, as you're the only one who can know his routine well enough to tell. Sorry, but I do smell a rat, and he is not telling you the whole truth here. At least that's my opinion. He certainly isn't putting your fears to rest, that's for sure.

A long conversation on what appropriate is in order. The texting, and calling, has to stop!

[Romefalls19]

Communication is the most valuable tool in any relationship, without it, sit back and watch the relationship crumble from the bottom

[8288]

Thanks for all your comments. This is the first time I sharing my problem..

N0help4u: Breaking the relationship is not that much easy, I try many time by avoid his call, mg etc. That time also my mind thinking about him. I love him so much, but I don't know why he change like this..

talaniman: First he share everything to me. But when I start to ask question about why u both mg like this... He stop telling to me about her.. How can I stop that girl texting, calling?
Give me some idea.. Thank you so much for your comment. Your words giving me support.

Romefalls19: He our Communication is one way. I telling everything to him. But he not.
Only he says " I cannot live without you "

[N0help4u]

You can't make him stop with that girl
If you give him an ultimatum -you or her
He will either hide his contact with her better or resent you for trying to control him.
If you give him an ultimatum you have to be serious and follow it up which unlikely you would
SO all you can do is live with it whatever he is up to and watch for more proof.
The more you confront him with questions the more secretive he will get.
So questioning him is a lose/lose situation.

You said to talaniman: First he share everything, but evidently he does not share everything.

[talaniman]

If she can't join you both, for dinner, or coffee, he has no business dealing with her.

If he cares for you, he will put her in her place, to stop calling/texting.

If he doesn't, and it continues... kick his azz to the curb.

Only he says " I cannot live without you "

When his actions don't match his words, he is lying, and you kick him to the curb!!

[8288]

Thanks a lots. I realize the fact...