[rashmi2404]

Hi,it is that I got married about 12 years from now, I am 33 now , and at such young age I did not realise that the partner I selected is very conservative and has a very different mental aptitutde than me.I have never been very happy with him since last 12 years due to his parents issues or family issues. that ultimately I even left him once 6 years back and got involved with a another relation ,when he came back in my life with all his apologies.I agreed to pursue and save the marriage due to our small daughter who was just 2 year at that time.I still not feel very happy wit his behavior,and he would many times talk about my ex relation - to put me down.now I do a have another guy as a close friend,and I share a lot of things with him , and again that has caused a high amount insecurity in my husband.day and night he nags me fr my this relation - and calls it an affair,when I tell him to leave me , he is not agreeing to that also. As per him, I should nt have any emotional involvements except with him, and that suffocates me,I can feel that our marriage is so dead ,but he persists that we should work on it, when I try that - than his approach is on my character assassination.I am an immigrant now,away from that guy from last 2 years , but still I hear so much about it from my husband that I decided that I want to go back at my home country and live at peace , as there I have my own house and support,but he does nt let me do that also , he abuses me that I am going fr that guy.. I am in a fix with this dead relation.Please help and advise.

[emmyhinrichs]

Are you in love or do you still share love for him that would be the question I'd ask myself. Your daughter probably doesn't want to be kept from daddy or maybe it would be the best thing. As for having other men in your life there is a line that can be crossed that brings out jealousy beware of that line. Does he converse with females? He needs to accept some form of friendship for you to have.

[donf]

Rashmi,

Did you marry your husband volentarily or was it a prearranged marrige between families that you had no say in at all?

[rashmi2404]

Yes I married him voluntarily ,but his family did nt accept me at all after the marriage - and of course that refusal brought a lot of tension between me and my husband immediately after the marriage.