[amer123]

I have been dating this girl we are in our mid 20's both working out of school. We hit it off so great, were together everyday so much I just went with it. She has a child and I am OK with that one hundred percent. Things went great then she had to move across town she got very stressed about the move and change and what not I tried to be there helped her move and get set up. Things kind of started to change, her stress consumed her she had no time needed to settle in and we were supposed to move in mind you we were only dating a few months but it was incredible. Now its different she says she has so much going on and she's worried about providing for her and her child and so on. I am there to help. We talked and decided to wait and make sure moving in was the right thing. She said she loved me so much and wanted it to not ruin us fast forward to a few weeks. Now she became detached she has so much going on feeling out of place with the move balancing work and herself that she doesn't know if she has time for me. I could tell because we started not seeing each other as much. I felt bad and asked about it and she said she was feeling pressured by me about moving in and wanting all of her. That's not how I feel but I can't get her to understand that I'm just here for her. We talked the other night and she feels she has no time for herself to settle in and so on. And now she says she loves me but some days its not quite that she's sure. She doesn't seem to know what she wants I offered to break up or take a break she said no. then I asked her later on in the week if everything was OK because she was very detached and she now says that she may not be able to give me her all or may be afraid to commit she's not really sure. She just doesn't know. I told her we could take it slow but she feels like I want all of her all the time and I don't I just want to see her and spend time sometimes not every night like it was cause that's not healthy. Well we talked about a break and maybe we need time but she does not feel like it did in the beginning which was so incredible and fun because she is so stressed about it all. I love her to death and have been there to help with everything so I am so confused. We talked and it seemed as though she was so confused about what she wants not that she wants to not commit and not see other people but just take some space and see what she wants because sometimes she just doesn't want to deal with anything sometimes so we decided to take a few days. I feel like she is pressured from me to commit to serious lifelong stuff and that's not how I feel we did at first and I do it would be nice but at the same time I would like to have fun with her and date but she says she doesn't think it will be the same. We are taking a few days but I feel like I did the wrong thing I wanted to just ask what kind of space she wanted but it got into should we break up, take a break, we are together but just waiting to see if she can figure out what she wants. Is this it, should I prepare for the worst of will she realize that there is a lot we have still. She says she still loves me and still sees me in her future in a way but maybe right now is going to be hard for her with all the demands she has. I have no problem slowing down and dating to see where it goes but I did not think that was the impression she got I don't know what to do, we are on a few days break and she said no we aren't seeing other people and that she highly doubts she will meet someone and want to not be with me. Its so hard because I love her so much and she means so much to me. But I can't find the right way to express myself I feel like if I hadn't brought it up that I was confused we might have gotten through it when we were able to be intimate and physical due to other reasons we haven't been able to have time for. She says she felt smothered sometimes and that I just want to settle down and she may not be ready but she had said she was when we started and that was our goal. To move in and be happy. But after the talk she said she need a few days, was not sure at all what to tell me, and that I could text her or call her but I don't want to smother her more but I want her to know I'm not trying to pressure her for her all right now because she has her child to take care of and get her new place in order and deal with all the change. She also said she feels like I may be better with someone else right now because of all her baggage which doesn't matter to me that's what makes her her. The conversation went on and we ended it with we are together but just taking a few days for her to figure things out what does this mean. What should I do? Should I send her and email saying that I just wanted to say I'm OK with your space I just didn't know what kind of space you wanted and I didn't want to go so deep into it I let my emotions go to far which is not me at all and I feel I scared her by that she did say that she highly doubts that in a few days she's going to want someone else and not want to be with me but I feel like she thinks I want marriage or something right now. She did say I could still text her but I feel like that will impose on the space but I feel like I did not say all I should have to not pressure her for her all.

[talaniman]

Two much to soon, crash and burn. She wants space give it to her. You don't move in with a female with a child after a few months no matter how fantastic the feelings are. Leave her alone, or take your time to know her better.

[amer123]

I got an email from her last night that said that when I am not around she misses me like so much and that she really does love me no matter what the outcome is. She said somehow with all going on it became a bad time for a relationship with all the stress I guess but she needs me to know that she loves me. How do I respond or do I, I feel like I put so much pressure on her at this time and that it ruined it. I was just wondering about the space and how to give it and it just went to far talking about it.

[talaniman]

She really does love me no matter what the outcome is.

Yeah she loves you, and misses your attention, but its not enough to try a relationship again. Leave her alone, and don't play that false hope game. She needs to leave you alone, but having you as a friend is better for her, than as a boyfriend, so realize that, and give her what she asked for. Space, all she can handle. This way you know the outcome, you will heal faster without her, than with her.

[Romefalls19]

Leave the head games alone as you don't need the emotional whirlwind that is happening. Take her space as space for yourself and start to heal, you will find someone else and she will know how to handle stress without ending a relationship with someone she "loves"

I can give you a perfect example of a much more stressfull situation if you would like?