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Glimmer · Nov 19, 2007, 04:43 PM

My Boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. He now tells me that he needs time for his friends. I work everyday and weekends and he spends all that time with his friends. I think he just wants to be with someone else. He tells me he loves me but he still wants space. I ask him what he needs space for and he tells me he needs it to think but at the same time I find out he is going to clubs and parties. Do you think he loves me?

thereisno4evr · Nov 19, 2007, 05:17 PM

Now if you are still seeing him fairly regular despite the fact that he feels he needs "space" from time to time then you really have nothing to worry about. Even though he spends all of the time you are working with his friends, he may be a very sociable person and have a large number of friends that he tries to keep regular contact with. In this situation you should give him the space that he wants/needs and try to not think of it as such a big deal.

However if you're contact with him has drastically reduced to a point where it is at little to none, then it is a different situation. In this case he might want space so he can re-evaluate your relationship. Give him his space, it doesn't matter how he uses it just the fact that you are letting him have it is enough. If he truly feels for you then this will only be a temporary situation. However if he continues to avoid you for a long period then perhaps you should step back and re-evaluate where this relation ship is going.

Glimmer · Nov 19, 2007, 05:21 PM

I understand he has friends but he wants no contact with me for a while is what he says

Homegirl 50 · Nov 19, 2007, 05:42 PM

Then give him Space. BIG SPACE. He is probably wanting out and does not have the decency to tell you. Don't sit around pining and waiting for someone who having their space.

Glimmer · Nov 19, 2007, 05:46 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Then give him Space. BIG SPACE. He is probably wanting out and does not have the decency to tell you. Don't sit around pining and waiting for someone who having their space.

Your right I guess... but damn it hurts to know that the person u love... wants space from u and not with you.

Homegirl 50 · Nov 19, 2007, 06:25 PM

I imagine it does, but you have to love yourself enough to not be put on a shelf until he decides if he wants to take you down.
Life will not end with him, it goes on and there will be someone else.

Glimmer · Nov 19, 2007, 06:42 PM

Every time I think about it and I force myself to let it go... I end up crying and calling him

thereisno4evr · Nov 19, 2007, 06:51 PM

Don't call him. No matter how upset you are.
Try to get out of the house.
Just do whatever makes you happy, anything to pre-ocupy yourself
Good luck

Glimmer · Nov 19, 2007, 06:59 PM

Originally Posted by thereisno4evr

Dont call him. No matter how upset you are.
Try to get out of the house.
Just do whatever makes you happy, anything to pre-ocupy urself
good luck

Thank u I am going to try that

N0help4u · Nov 19, 2007, 08:50 PM

You need to leave him have his space. What good is prolonging the inevitable if he is trying to leave you. IF he sees you gave him his space he might think twice and want to work things out. If not he most likely wasn't even worth it.
I have found that guys that put their buddies and partying as priority only leads to a life of loneliness for you. It never gets better and they only think of their own selfish whims.
My ex was more concerned about 'what about my friends' than anything to do with me. I hung on hard and got nowhere. Just wasted years on him nothing more.
I always said he could come home from partying half the night with his buddies and find me dead on the floor, trip over me and complain about tripping and go to bed.

Glimmer · Nov 20, 2007, 12:07 PM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

You need to leave him have his space. What good is prolonging the inevitable if he is trying to leave you. IF he sees you gave him his space he might think twice and want to work things out. If not he most likely wasn't even worth it.
I have found that guys that put their buddies and partying as priority only leads to a life of loneliness for you. It never gets better and they only think of their own selfish whims.
My ex was more concerned about 'what about my friends' than anything to do with me. I hung on hard and got nowhere. Just wasted years on him nothing more.
I always said he could come home from partying half the night with his buddies and find me dead on the floor, trip over me and complain about tripping and go to bed.

Thank you... He only wants to party and have fun and he thinks that I am going to be waiting forever