[shinyrose]

Hello for all ,

Actually I don't know how to start but really I'm so depressed , after all failed relationships passed by me, I get acquaintant with a 31 years guy from internet , he seems nice and has a special way I do confess he did attarct me by all his means of communication, a lot of calls and talking during the day reaches 4 hours per day , he expresses his felling telling that he already feel something toward me and we need to meet to see what things will go on ,

Respectively we meet each other , it was just 45 min. no more but considered as a whole day
I like him and he tells me that I was so shiny and gorgeous than he predict..

And he asks to meet me again , honestly I refused cause I want to know his inner feeling and know him more , then his calls start to decrease under the pretense that he is so stressed cause of exams and work..

I feel not good at all as I getting used to talk to him much but I respect his conditions.. I'm not satisfied at all till this moment, he promised to call after 30 min then he didn't or call the next day.. each call doesn't exceed 10 min. once a day

I couldn't judge on his behaviour ,is he playing games with me or what and if he isn't interested at me why he call eventhogh I face him with all such things telling him to be friends or to break up even the friendship , he reply with surprise action why you said that I;m just confused cause of exams and things around

I couldn't believe but I don't know how to treat and act with this guy , he promised that something good "marriage" will take place but how as our relation start to lost

Please tell me what to do ? I decide to talk to him again discussing all negatives points I did fell , on the other side I saw him not interested according to his manner...

Please help me I feel depressed as every relation ship faild and I don't want to feel this bad fellings again adding that I do admire him and want things to go in the right way

What shall I do?? Please give your valuable vision .

[talaniman]

he reply with surprise action why you said that I;m just confused cause of exams and things around

Is there a reason not to believe he is telling the truth? I assume you are not in America, am I right??

[shinyrose]

Yes I'm not in America , I don't believe him cause he wants me to be near while his manner seems not interesting as before without any visible specific reason

What's your opinion??

[lmangileri]

If he said you were shiny and gorgeous and wanted to meet you again, isn't that sharing his inner feelings? Maybe he didn't understand why you refused to see him again. It sounds like maybe you pushed him away without meaning to.

[Romefalls19]

You need to open the lines of communication more and express to him how you are feeling. Every relationship takes two people and the right amount of communication in order to work.

[shinyrose]

I don't refuse , I told him we want to talk much inorder to meet

I'm afraid that he asked to meet me just for good time and amusing , I don't know really his cerebration...

What about ask him to talk in the future and his previous proposal adding to relate things which made me feel worry

Or you prefer to keep silent and don't appear any attention to his actions.

[talaniman]

Just me, getting to know some one face, to face is fun. As well it should be, and too much deep conversation before the lines of communications are open, leads to misunderstandings.

My advice, a lot more fun, and less talk, no sex, as you get to know each other, and get comfortable.

It's a date, not a job interview, or inquisition. Relax!

[happy_jester]

Too much deep conversation before the lines of communications are open, leads to misunderstandings.

This is NOT a job interview (nowhere near as serious as that! )

RELAX & enjoy getting to know each other :)