Ironic... because I just googled aggrivated menacing because that is what I just filed a police report for yesterday. I can tell you MY situation. I posted this last evening on a blog on mine,take what you will from it...
Today was any other day... I picked Emily up at 12:30pm from VBS and off to my Mom's for a quick cup of coffee. Then to my MIL's To pick up my niece Sarah and her son Andrew. She needed a ride to the $ store for teething gel and infant tylenol. So it was myself,Sarah,Andrew,Emily and Ryan. I am a VERY cautious driver.. almost to the point of being a Granny driver. I can't help it. I drive safe with the kids in the car. Myself.. another story. Anyhow... I used my blinker to come down the aisle to park,I see the spot I intend on parking in and I turn on my signal again. There is a woman that just pulled in and I stopped pulling in,waiting for her to exit her car completely before I pull any further in. I am just about to finish pulling in and this white beat up toyota comes about 40 mph tearing through the parking lot at me and nearly takes of the back end of the car. The man driving stops and has his window down(mine is up) and starts flipping me off and yelling and cursing at me,sticking his tongue out at me and throwing his hands in the air at me. I just looked at him and mouthed "whatever". I didn't know if he parked or not... but I was the first to get out of the car and I told everyone to stay IN the car. As soon as I got out of the car this man was right,nose to nose in my face. He was LITERALLY spitting and screaming at me throwing his hands in the air and swinging them around at me like he was going to knock me out. I really thought he was going to hit me. I don't know what is wrong with me... I wasn't afraid of him,I simply wasn't scared. Inside of me I felt like D A M N you... you will not,do not and Won't stop me from living my life god D A M M I T! This thought process lasted in my head all of about 12 seconds,it was quick... but I just thought... ya know? There are times I can't leave my house for days,weeks at a time because I am too ill... and here this A S S hole thinks he can behave this way and try to intimidate me? No,I isn't having it! I don't think you could have put a finger in between his nose and my nose and he is screaming... I just keep saying to him calmly(dont ask me HOW I stayed calm with this man) "SIR what have I done wrong,I am driving how I should...Sir Calm down,Sir Stop yelling,SIR you are the one that came all crazy through the parking lot"... he was SCREAMING over the top of me... "YOU F'ing TROLL B****...YOU F'ing FAT A** TROLL B****"... just over and over again. After about 3 minutes I yelled VERY loud... SIR I AM CALLING THE POLICE NOW... His response to me was "GO AHEAD AND CALL THE POLICE YOU FAT TROLL B***** and when you come out of this store,your car is going to be ALL F'd up!". You know... this whole time I have kept my cool... I simply had it! And I did file this in my report I yelled back at him You're a troll b****. I never moved a muscle with him in my face,for me being some dumb crazy person I wasn't scared of him... He was RIGHT nose to nose to me... this big scary HOsTILE screaming crazy man stranger that just came unglued for absouluty no reason of my doing. When he turned to walk away I crumble... I didn't cry,not yet... I shook and shook. The kids and everyone were in the car in shock over what just happened. I did a 360,looking everywhere around me,anyone that could help me... no one close.. but then I see an old lady in her jeep,her hand was still over her mouth in shock over what's he saw.. I know she saw the entire thing. I would have been in utter shock too... WOW,I still am. I motion to her if she had a phone,she noded yes and I walked over... and that time my notorious panic attacks kicks in... if the crazy man wasn't enough of a stresser. I couldn't even breathe... I just put up one finger at the lady and walked away. I got in the car and said nothing,and no one said anything to me. I took 10 or so deep breathes and closed my eyes a minute... decided that YES I was going to call 911 on this man. So I got back out the car,walked back over to the woman and ask again about the phone,she handed it to me and I just looked at it,I did not know what to do.. like I had never seen a phone in my life,ever. She said "911 honey".. The mans car was parked right next to where I standing.. so when 911 answered,I told them where I was then before I told them what happened I said "I dont have paper or anything to write with PLEASE write down this plate number,I will NOT remember it"... She sent and officer over... In the meantime the man came out of the store. The 911 operator said to hang up with her and wait in the car with my window up and doors lock andwait for the officer. I about ran over to m y car. This is when I realized I was kind of in danger and how stupid I was... this man could have hurt me,my kids... my God... He fled... fast as he came. About a minute later the cop showed up and I filed a report. Because I had that plate number I was able to identify him right there in the police car by computer. I said "yep,thats him EXCEPT his shirt was not white it was blue". Right away they had his address,name... everything. They were already at his house while I was still filing the report,no one was home... hmm I expected that one. The woman that I borrowed her phone,she came back... the police talked to her,ask for her to file a report... she said NO... thought it was a domestic disbute. He said NO Ma'am she did not no him! So of course she filed her report. I know they are getting him on menacing because of threating to destroy my property. I would like for them to get him on assault because he was spitting on me... I don't know... what else can you do to someone that just goes completely crazy on someone and freaks them out like that? Menace to society? Anyhow.. The officer gave me his card and will keep me informed... I don't know if I will have to be seen in court for this or not. I don't want to see this man again. I am afraid he will want to retaliate... but I won't back down... I am not that type of person. I am born to stand up and fight against whatever comes my way... just don't hurt my family. So All that is over with... nearly 2 hrs later! Sarah asks... You just want to go home? I said "are ya kidding me?? NO WAY" After all that,he was not going to scare me into leaving.. whatever the hell his problem was.
So anyhow... I can't get this off my mind.. everytime I close my mind I get get this jerks face out of mine... he is still spitting on me and calling me all that craziness...
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
So... My point? You may think this isn't menacing... but how can you know how it affects the OTHER person?
|