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    Jun 2, 2008, 05:00 PM
    Falling for best friend
    Me and my best friend spend huge amounts of time together and he can read me like an open book. He works away for 4 days and then he is home for 4 days. When he is back I see him every day, stay over twice and normally have dinner together. He buys 2 of every thing so that I can eat with him.

    Recently we ended up having sex and this has happand several times since then. It is not akward or difficult and just seams to work. I have said that it needs to stop but then it happens again always under his ineation. I don't know what to do now or where to go from here.

    I love him to bits and he tells me frequently that he loves me (in a friendly way). We are like an old marred cupple as we are frequently told. Our friends all don't baleve we are not together. I know that he doesn't want a relationship but I've reallised that I want to be with him it is so easy and works so well.

    What do I do any sugeztions would be grately appresheated.

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    Jun 2, 2008, 05:32 PM
    Well talk to him as your already doing everything a couple does. You better talk, or end up friends with benefits.
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    Jun 2, 2008, 06:09 PM
    I agree with Tal, talking about the issue and how you feel should clear the air. Sometimes for the good, but sometimes for the bad. Just got to take that risk
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    Jun 3, 2008, 10:22 AM
    Hi City,

    You should definatley talk to him. You need to find out what his intensions are as well. I know you would like to have a relationship with him (more than friends) not a friends with benefits thing.
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    Jun 3, 2008, 12:57 PM
    It sounds like your are already together with everything that you do. But he already warned an head of time he don't want a relationship but who knows people changes their mind. It seems your are able to talk so make sure the next time your at his house before you go bed with him ask him and make sure you ask him how he feels about you and be ready for anything. I wish you luck!
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    Jun 3, 2008, 03:27 PM
    Recently we ended up having sex and this has happand several times since then.
    Sex complicates things, as it causes and magnifies some already intense feelings, and if this has no future, that's the first thing you stop doing together. To you it makes you want more and deepens your feelings, but to him it may just be a benefit of your friendship.
    This usually happens to one partner or another in situations like this. You do need to resolve it now, before one gets in a lot deeper emotionally than the other.

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