[JEANNIEINMA]

This question has been on my mind for the past few weeks because something started to change. I have been friends with Anthony for 15 years we actually met through my ex , they were good friends but he and I always had a good friendship, through the years I was friendly with all of his girlfriends in fact one of his ex's is still my best friend, I don't know how but we became very close friendship wise, 6 years ago he married but was miserable right away, they lived together for a few months and then he moved out, we always talked about this and how I was very unhappy with my ex( his friend) he knew he was a jerk and treated me horrible. He always offered a male point of view and I knew he was right most of the time. A couple of years ago he and his wife got together for a couple of weeks and she was pregnant, together they have a son, they have never lived together as a family but they still talk and see each other. Anthony was staying at his sisters house and a while back while I was breaking up with my ex after 14 years he came to my house and honestly he was my savior, he did everything to help me hold it together and finally end my bad , abusive , horrible relationship. He was honestly my very best friend through all this. Here is the weird thing , my kids love him and have grown up with him around and as my friend, when he sleeps over he sleeps in my bed, but no sex just friends. He himself is going through a breakup. Anthony is 9 years younger then myself and honestly for years I never in my life had feelings for him, but recently I have been, I have always cared about him as a friend , I am close to his mother and his dad who passed away a few years back was my neighboor and visited me everyday. He is in the process of building a house and we do a lot of shopping and picking things out together, he eats dinner with us every night, I guess from the outside we are living like a married couple, Its strange... No sex though but I feel the weirdness when we pass each other in the hall or just in different situations. My question is I feel like things are going to cross the line of friendship soon but I do Not want to loose him as a friend and if we were to actually have sex would we be able to be friends if things didn't work out?? /:eek:

[Kristen024]

It's kind of hard to say being every situation is different. There are people who end up getting married to their best friends because everything works out great between them. It's a huge risk and beings you have been knowing him for a great length of time it's definitely hard. I know this because my best friend whom I have known for 17 years admitted that he had romantic feelings for me. And the thought of me losing my best friend if things didn't work out wasn't worth it for me. I think for me it would be strange if things didn't work out because I wouldn't know how to act around him. Maybe it sounds odd but if I was to consider it I would want to sit down and talk to him about it before hand.