[mrchef1110]

My question is how do I stay out of the friend zone both in and out of the relationship? I was recently dumped and she said she couldn't see me as more than just a friend that being said how would one show that they can be more than just a friend?

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Make your intentions clear.

[JBeaucaire]

When a girl dumps you and you want her back as your g/f, the only place you can go to to make that happen IS the friend zone.

Anything else leaves you looking wimpy and desperate. Get into the friend zone, become the best friend she's ever had. Be there for her. Love her, console her, remind her occasionally you still have the hots for her, but stay at her side as long and as close as she will allow.

This is the only position you can use to get her back in the end. Good luck.

[KEVINMCSE]

My question is how do i stay out of the friend zone both in and out of the relationship? I was recently dumped and she said she couldn't see me as more than just a friend that being said how would one show that they can be more than just a friend?

You need to stop being to nice and show some toughness.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Please elaborate on this toughness you speak of..

[mrchef1110]

Hmmm but I was told on the relationship forum that the only way I could be her friend is I didn't have any underlying motive

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Hmmm but i was told on the relationship forum that the only way i could be her friend is i didnt have any underlying motive

First--Why are you asking the same question in two different sections on the site, that causes confusion. Case and point.

Second--YOU are the one that said that you didn't want to be friends. Do you want to be her friend or not, otherwise I don't understand the question.

[mrchef1110]

It was not the same question first of all this question was how to stay out of the Friendzone i.e. learning from mistakes of the past. Second I've been talking to some girls I know at my school about things in general and they said they didn't see me as more than just a guy friend you could tell anything too.

Question on the other forum was whether to let it go or not which I have definitely let it go. I was just using that as reference to the fact that I got that in a break up which definitely threw up some red flags so I was just wondering is it just the way I act or some greater conspiracy behind it

[ChihuahuaMomma]

A "friend zone" with someone that you were dating and between girls at school are different, and really just a coincidence. It's not a conspiracy. This girl has moved on, you need to as well.

[mrchef1110]

Trust me I have took me a while and what not but I have, however, that is not my question.

How would one not fall into the friend zone with the women around him is it just the familiarity of having someone to talk to that doesn't seem to have ulterior motives or is it something that guys fall into because they care too much?

[liz28]

If you can't be her friend then simply don't, if you can't handle it. Why even tolture yourself if you know you want to be more than friends.