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Candlewood · May 28, 2008, 06:48 PM

My daughter is 19 and is giving us too much trouble, how do we kick her out from home

Fr_Chuck · May 28, 2008, 07:01 PM

Well personally their clothes in garbage bags thrown onto the porch and the locks changed worked well for me when I had teen trouble years ago.

But legally, you give them 30 day notice to be out, if they are not you evict them in housing court, just like a renter.

JoeCanada76 · May 28, 2008, 07:03 PM

Too much trouble in what way? Please describe your situation in great detail. Can not answer anything until you do.

DoulaLC · May 29, 2008, 04:19 AM

As was mentioned, we don't know what's going on, but I'd discuss the situation with her, letting her know what the concerns are, and what changes you need to see and why. Also let her know that if she doesn't feel she can make these changes within a specified time frame, and if possible that you are willing to help her, or find help for her if necessary, she will have to find other living arraignments. If it eases your conscience, and you have the means and desire, offer to help her out in finding a place and getting set up... maybe even helping a bit financially for a few months or something if need be, but the bottom line is, that while you love her dearly, things are not going well (I assume she knows your expectations), some changes need to be made, or she will have to move out.

If it's a severe situation, and her safety is a concern, you may have to take action yourselves in getting her help. Another consideration would be if there is anything you may need to make changes on... if possible meeting her halfway, so everyone can live in the same house peacefully. What you may decide to do will obviously depend on the situation.

JBeaucaire · May 29, 2008, 03:27 PM

Originally Posted by Candlewood

My daughter is 19 and is giving us too much trouble, how do we kick her out from home

Both my daughters ended up leaving home in completely different manners. Neither was easy.

But my oldest, well, it was pretty tough. Towards the end, she was so impervious to anything we tried to tell her, we had to give up. We told her that as long as she was going to be the way she was, we were going to leave her alone and treat her like a tenant. We gave her a rent ($250) that didn't include food, and we stopped the whole parent/daughter thing.

Lasted about 5 months and she figured since she had to pay rent, she might as well get a place of her own, and did.

In the end, she came around to our way of thinking... 2 years later! Oh my!

So, that's a suggestion for you... don't kick her completely out, but kick out the parent/child relationship for a while.

Else, you'll have to follow some of the other tough suggestions and evict her like any normal tenant. I'm sure there are rules for your state you have to follow, but those are easily found out.

Fr_Chuck · May 29, 2008, 04:03 PM

People can disagree with me, no magic stone when a moderator, Ok yes I did get the magic stone but don't use it all the time.

I am under the assumption, the home belongs to the parent, the child isn't ot a child any longer they are 19. So if the parent wants them out just because they got their ears pierced, that was not the question,
But you are fine with addressing why, I only addressed the actual question of how. If the parent is at the end of their rope, to want a child out, it is a parents right when the child is 19.