[tigerlilly3]

Ok my last post was about how I caught my boyfriend watching porn after I told him how I felt about it. So he lied and he did it behind my back after he said he would never look at it again and he saw how hurt I was. Does this mean that he will lie about other things or cheat or anything like that? I mean I really love him he's a perfect boyfriend other than that one thing I just don't want to waste my time and get hurt again. I know it's normal but Im very insecure and I already went through this with him. I just need to know if I should stay or go?

[this8384]

It depends. I had a very similar situation. My ex-fiancee and I were together for 4 1/2 years. I found out one day that he was on singles' sites and porn sites; he lied about it, only to have me find out a month later that it was actually him all along.

I forgave him for it, but I thought that forgiveness = trust. It doesn't. I wasted over a year of my life with him because I thought I could learn to trust him again. I would suppose that's the whole issue to begin with, isn't it? Do you honestly think you can trust him again? If you can't, then I would suggest parting ways with him... it'll be best for you both in the long run.

[talaniman]

Some things are just not worth losing sleep over, and you must pick your battle carefully. I agree, why lie if its no big deal with you, so drop it, and leave it alone, if its no big deal any way. Because he likes porn doesn't mean he will cheat, but I would keep my eyes open about the lying. Let the dust settle, and regroup, before you make that a battleground, as I think you'll have to talk eventually, and get to the root of the problem. He may just be to ashamed at this point.