[ststoleson]

UPDATE!! 2 hours later after cutting her out of my life so I could heal, she calls and starts sending text messages about how I really don't seem like I lost the love of my life and how my ex was more important because I chased after her and she thought I was just letting go of what we had. I was visiting my grandpa at the time in the nursing home so I just ignored it, I called her back when I left and she was crying and telling me that she broke with me because of me and that I was being immature for cutting her out of my life, I calmed her down, assured her that I was just trying to respect her and give her what she wanted and she continued to call me manipulative and the like. So basically in the end of it I kept a cool composure and ensured her I loved her very much and if she wanted me back that I was ready for her and I would not be a jerk like I have been. She had to go but said we need to talk about this later. With this said I quickly questioned what later meant, a week, a day, whatever she needed... I got told text me later if you want, and I told her ill be busy watching a movie and for her to text me when she has the time. I come home to messages (sent before she called me) about how now she knows the real me now and that I better enjoy going out and screwing whoever.. and if I loved her so much how could I give up on her so easily this was Friday...

Saturday we talked about she was still hesitant and didn't want to see me or anything of that nature. We had an awesome conversation for like 2 hours but I kept telling myself that it was awesome only because it was what I wanted. I didn't talk to her the rest of the night, because I was drinking and I didn't want to say anything I didn't mean or anything to pressure her or piss her off. I wrote her a letter and told her I cannot be in her life as only a friend because it I told her everything I felt and that if she still felt that she didn't want to be with me or se me that is the case. I didn't message her in the morning or anything and we just got back together!!

Basically, The minute she felt how it was without me in her life, and feeling that I wasn't there anymore and I had cut her out of my life when all she wanted was a break.

We just got back together and she still wants me to go see her for her graduation and explained to me how hard it was telling me she didn't want me there. Im posting this because I never gave up hope, and it worked because I went about it the right way, and thanks to everyone for being cool and helping me through one of the hardest times cause I know that everyone if not all are going through the same thing right now. You never know what the future entails and never lose hope.

Feeling awesome right now :)

[bigbird213]

ststoleson,

I'm glad your feeling good. I hope everything works out for you.

I just want to tell you that you should be careful to ensure that the problems that caused the breakup the first time donlt resurface. After such a short time, its hard to imagine either of you have changed very deeply...

[nickshehe]

Uhm.. Im happy for you dude..
To be honest I don't think I completely understood your post though, because from what I gather apparently she discovered how life was without you in 2 hours? And she changed her mind and came back?
I dno man I would be a little cautious.. people don't change in hours.. or days of being apart.. So its probable that she pulls one over you again, sooner than you'd like to believe...
Whatever the case good luck.
Be yourself.

[nickshehe]

Bigbird beat me to the post.. argh :P

[losingit77]

I'm happy you're happy. Just be cautious for a little while. Not much could've changed in such a short period apart so make sure to play it close to the vest for now. Make sure you understand the "real reason" why this break was needed to begin with and what you can both do to not make that happen again. I've been there in the back and forth stage and if you don't address the underlying issue it will resurface again and she might react the same way with "wanting a break" all over again...

Good luck and keep us posted!

[ststoleson]

It was a week of not talking and it was Friday I decided that I couldn't just sit there and see her as single so I deleted her from Facebook, etc and that's when she started calling and msging. But your right I just have to be chilled like I've been lately. Ill be cautious and continue to work with her on why we broke up and everything should be cool. Hopefully

[perplexed1]

NC is not a tool to get someone back. It is supposed to be something to help you get over them YOURSELF. It is not supposed to be used to inflict guilt. Maybe she realized she missed you, but don't use NC as a tool to make her miss you. It will eventually end badly.

[AustProd6]

What it's suppose to do and what it does is 2 different things.
I got my ex back through NC. When I did, I realised I was remembering the 5% that was fantastic and not the 95% that was crap. Iwas dumped originally and after a few weeks I realised what I put up with before I was not prepared to this time.
Said goodbye and became the dumper, went back into NC cause I no longer want anything to do with her.
Callious yep, but not for revenge, for peace of mind.

[log]

You my ex and I broke up because of a selfish reason on her behalf but the nc thing as mentioned before is a key to shut the door and not a key to open it.but I'm really happy for you on you getting back with your ex just be careful the second time around.