[sarah_s]

Hello.

I'm 18. I've been with my first boyfriend (who's 19) for 7 months and we recentely had a break but, we got back together 2 weeks later at the end of March.

The problem(?) or the confusion I want to ask is that my boyfriend is quite sensitive. When we got back together 2 days after we were at a local pub he suddenly talked about marriage saying ''I want to marry you. I'll propose here even'' which is quite.. odd. He has 'never' talked about marriage including he's previous relationships. I remembered long time his ex said ''I want to marry you'' and he got really in-denial.
One time I said ''I want to marry you'' as in playful and he said ''Think what you say. You always say that''... Err? I have said it a few times but, not as much as him. Then yesterdsay I helped him with something and he said ''You make a good wife''. I gave him a look. ''Don't look at your husband like that''..?


I know this isn't really a problem and there's nothing wrong about it I know and, I do love him very much. It's just a surprise since, he's not the type of person to think ahead yet. I mean NEVER to think about marrying, hubbies, wifeys or whatever. Were both young still at college. I gave him everything including my virginity and he had sacrifice for me too. I' m his first long-relationship and I presume it's something we had all this time?

[Fr_Chuck]

Hard to say, why not talk to him and ask him

[boredINmind]

Definitely talk to him, ask him if he is serious about this and if he has really thought about the possibility. If you want to but just not now, tell him about your concerns, and maybe set some date or time slot in the future a few years down the road or something.

The only solution to your problem is to just talk to him, we can't help you much with this one! We don't know you or him, and the situation is kind of fuzzy, so talk to him.

[talaniman]

Its not all that unusual for people your age to play the "let get married" game with each other. Marriage is easy. Staying together is not. 7 months is not a long time at all, and way to soon for such serious planning. You need to know this, and resist any impulsive planning, and just give this relationship a while to bloom, into something permanent. Despite what you have said of marriage, there is a lot to learn about each other, and yourselves, and a lot this relationship must still go through, especially with sex thrown in, to grow and develop. Yes its nice and heady to talk of the future together, but lets not get carried away at this time. Maybe in a year, see where your at, but for now, two strangers are just at the beginning of having something that may be special, but there is a long way to go before you can define each other as life partners.