[RNM]

Hey,

Okay so I've seen this guy at school and he's looked at me and we'd get a little bit eye contact at school and my friends would say that he's looking at me when I don't look at him. And I really think he's cute, so it was a school party like 2 weeks ago and my friend and I were talking when I saw him walking past us and then my friend just grabbed me over to him and then she left him and I alone to talk. So we spoke for more than an hour and he had a lot of eye contact with me and he never left me and then we made out when the party ended and then we went our separate ways, but he didn't ask for my number. That was very upsetting, but could he have forgotten or was he just not interested, what could it mean? And then after the weekend it was school again and when we saw each other first time after the party he stared at me and I stared at him we smiled big and he said hi to me first and then I said hi, and I went weak in my knees. Then a few days past and then I finally saw him again at school and I just went up to him and I asked for his number myself and then he smiled a lot and he said I quote ''yeah of course you can!'' and then I got his number. So later that day in the evening I wrote to him and he wrote back to my first message, then the second message I wrote: ''oh too bad you are so busy otherwise we could have figured something out''. Yeah he was at work and he was going out at the time when I wrote that message but he could've written back. So what does it mean that he didn't write back to that message? After just showing a bit of interest he didn't write back that was weird. So a week later I hadn't heard from him but at school he smiled to me. Yesterday I decided to write to him and then he answered back and it feels like he talks personally direct to me in his messages, so we spoke for a little bit and it was really cool. But I don't know exactly what he wants, does he just want to be friends, is he interested in more? Or is he not interested?
I'd really appreciate some help so I know where to go from here. Thanks.

[Scleros]

He's not interested, clueless, or is enjoying having you chase him. None of which bode well for you. Be less eager and see if he initiates contact.

[plonak]

I agree with Scleros. He doesn't seem interested.. I can picture this type of guy saying "I don't want a relationship, I just want to mess around" If he was really interested he would had responded to your text about getting together.

I suggest that you back off, let him do the first texting and calling and asking out. You were bold by asking for him for his number but no more of that. He needs to make the effort now. No more contact on the cell phone, and even act aloof (not mad or angry by any means because you will seem crazy) and act like your life is sooo busy and you have so much going on.. that your time is limited if he does ask you out.. when you see him at school smile but don't be the first to talk, again look like you can care less. He might like the hard to get game.

[RNM]

Hey!

I really want to know what I can do to get my unbelievable shyness away for when I want to talk to a cute guy that I'm interested in. I am a pretty girl I really think so and my family and friends think so too, I have such a bubbly personality towards my friends, but still I'm so shy and insecure when I'm around guys I'm interested in. I think I am those things because I just go blank and don't know what to say when I am around a guy that I like or I think he's cute I want to get to know him. But I just don't know what to say to the guy or what to talk about. I haven't ever had a boyfriend and I REALLY want one I want a relationship. But how do I just get rid of my shyness and insecurity? How do I come up with issues or things to say on the spot to the guy? Please help me thanks!

[plonak]

My suggestion is to work on yourself before you ever think about getting in a relationship.. I know you're thinking "I can't even get a boyfriend" but it's a mind set that you need to be in.. You need to be OK with yourself before you be with someone.

Work on your insecurities.. I feel like a lot of my shyness has a lot to do with my low self esteem.. I am working on it and am also taking anxiety medicine.. Do you think you might have social anxiety? But don't get me wrong, not all problems can be solved by popping pills, talking it out and getting to the root of the problem is the number one most important thing you can do..

Once you work this out you will probably be more confident and have the ability to talk to guys better.. it's definitely something guys like to see in girls.